Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 07, 2020 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,197 |
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Despite the occasional fights and frustrations, it appears a vast majority of children are both wanted and cherished.
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Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 09, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,965 |
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bell_flower
Cambion, I am crushing on you again because what you wrote is 100x better than what that dude wrote. This dude could have got to the real issues, such as: 1. the woman has a friend problem if she's happy and she gets "pity" from some of her friends, 2. parenthood is a huge decision that should require a lot of soul-searching, and choosing not to have them is a legitimate choice.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 12, 2020 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 5,622 |
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 12, 2020 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,197 |
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many of these doe eyed baby rabids delude themselves, like the toadler brained asshats they are, that they'll be different, they'll do a better job; fantasize about themselves as the star of the 'noble mommy warrior'. they actually see the hell and misery breeding causes, but they salve their minds with this vomit.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 18, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 18, 2020 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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freya
Gone are personal boundaries and the ability to separate kid and adult activities when it comes to crappy parunting.
Bad boundaries also applies to parunts working (who will let their kids bug them if it rains, or whatever) and with cell phones (which crappy parunts always buy their kids) the kids expect their parunts to be "on call" for them.
Grandparunts are now expected to be second parunts to their grandkids, to do any less than every thing is to be judged by all their grandparunt friends and their kids.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 19, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,965 |
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 19, 2020 | Registered: 3 years ago Posts: 201 |
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Cambion
I also think a LOT of modern parents didn't mature mentally before having kids... to a degree. A lot of young parents now seem to still be resentful over their own parents using real parenting, real discipline, and real boundaries in order to try and turn them into functioning human beings.
And this works when the person in question isn't a spoiled brat of legal age, but I think many current first-time parents still feel that their own parents were mean to them as kids and are holding a grudge. Consider how many people think spanking is child abuse, for fuck's sake!
So in a misguided effort to "prove" to their parents/the world/themselves that their parents' way of raising them was all wrong, these people are going to have their own kids and raise them their own way, which involves lavishing the child with unnecessary amounts of affection, ignoring bad behavior or even praising it, using discussions of feelings instead of punishments, being up the kid's ass CONSTANTLY and attempting to be the child's best friend instead of its parent.
Why? So the child won't feel a single ounce of sadness or disappointment or boredom or any negative human feeling. The problem is that kids get upset over completely ridiculous shit and no amount of helicoptering will prevent that. Plus the way these retards raise these kids is going to turn them into complete failures as people. They'll probably need all kinds of medication because having to cope with things like not getting their own way or having to wait to do something will give them all anxiety or depression. They'll be very dependent and will probably struggle to form normal bonds with others. Given the shitbags Moos seem to like shacking up with, the kids will grow up with a warped sense of what constitutes a normal relationship. They'll go fucking nuts when they're told "no" or experience punishment for bad behavior as adults and will likely resort to violence and they'll generally be selfish, intolerable cunts.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 19, 2020 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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toraneko
I'm certainly glad *I* wasn't raised this way. And I don't have flawless parents, either. My father is a bully who is subject to tantrums and inanity.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 19, 2020 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,432 |
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Cambion
And this works when the person in question isn't a spoiled brat of legal age, but I think many current first-time parents still feel that their own parents were mean to them as kids and are holding a grudge.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 19, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,965 |
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yurble
I do wonder how the parents of today's parents messed up so badly. Of course, there were always a few who held a grudge over their own childhood, sometimes justifiably and sometimes unfairly, but it didn't seem to be the norm to resent your parents to the degree that you completely disregarded the kind of upbringing you had. Most people, after growing up, seemed to comprehend that some of the things they didn't like were necessary in order help them develop into functional adults. I doubt any kid enjoys chores, but most adults appreciate why their parents required it.
Now, it seems that pretty much everyone is bitter about their childhoods, instead of gaining a sense of perspective with adulthood. I'm not talking about perfectly legitimate grievances such as parents beating or not showing affection, but normal discipline and expectations.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 20, 2020 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,197 |
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Now, it seems that pretty much everyone is bitter about their childhoods, instead of gaining a sense of perspective with adulthood. I'm not talking about perfectly legitimate grievances such as parents beating or not showing affection, but normal discipline and expectations.
Re: Before There Was the Internet, there was only Ann Landers and Dear Abby November 20, 2020 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,432 |
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Now, it seems that pretty much everyone is bitter about their childhoods, instead of gaining a sense of perspective with adulthood. I'm not talking about perfectly legitimate grievances such as parents beating or not showing affection, but normal discipline and expectations.
Maybe it's just garden variety entitlement? Raise someone without saying no, and they will just resent you for not giving them more?
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