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In casual conversations in the workplace, I'm amazed how many kids are completely exempted from doing any household chores. They are expected to focus on school and after school activities so they can get into a good KAWLEDGE. That never flew in my family of origin. We all got the lesson--there is no such thing as a free lunch. And it did not matter if you were a girl--you were expected to shovel snow and cut grass too. None of this Disney Princess shit.
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Now I know I would be much better off and probably would have had a better childhood if they had encouraged me to be a balanced person with a variety of interests. This "education is everything" shit needs to die. I learned the hard way what makes or breaks you in life is how well you relate to people, not how educated or smart you are.
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They also had the attitude education is all that mattered. I wonder how common that is? I was strongly discouraged from having any interest or doing any activity that was not somehow related to my education or future career. The kind of career they wanted me to have of course.
Re: 7th graders who have never used a knife or walked a dog March 06, 2021 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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Both my dad and I would have done more around the house if Mom had let us, but she preferred to do it all herself so she could bitch about how hard she worked and nobody appreciated her.
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My parents were also ahead of their time though not as bad as Cambion's. I remember being very surprised in my 40s when I read in the newspaper many generation Xers felt ignored by their parents. My experience was the opposite. My parents constantly hovered and wanted to know about every little damn thing I was doing, and I always had less freedom than other kids my age. I did very little housework, but that might have been because Mom wanted to be a martyr. Both my dad and I would have done more around the house if Mom had let us, but she preferred to do it all herself so she could bitch about how hard she worked and nobody appreciated her.
They also had the attitude education is all that mattered. I wonder how common that is? I was strongly discouraged from having any interest or doing any activity that was not somehow related to my education or future career. The kind of career they wanted me to have of course. They wanted me to have just enough of a social life to avoid appearing "strange" and do a few extracurricular activities because those helped with getting into college. But they sure as fuck didn't want me to actually care about my friends.
Now I know I would be much better off and probably would have had a better childhood if they had encouraged me to be a balanced person with a variety of interests. This "education is everything" shit needs to die. I learned the hard way what makes or breaks you in life is how well you relate to people, not how educated or smart you are.
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They also didn't like me having friends, only people I could use to get what I want since they believed only your family was there for you and nobody else. It was almost like being in a cult, we were the only right ones and the outside was bad.
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They also didn't like me having friends, only people I could use to get what I want since they believed only your family was there for you and nobody else. It was almost like being in a cult, we were the only right ones and the outside was bad.
This is how my MIL is and I found it cult-like myself. Her kids are obviously all adults now and it is still like that. They consider themselves the closest of close families, but I find it just some kind of indoctrination, so her kids would always be right by her side, sing her praises, and she would never be alone.
As for this generation not knowing how to figure out the laundrymat, I just dont get it....heliocopter parents are around their damn kids all day, yet...they dont teach them shit. This is another thing my MIL did, it keeps her kids dependent on her. But, she would jokingly make fun of them when they grew. I felt like saying, it is just evidence of you being a shitty parent bcuz u didnt teach them to be grown ups. How do u blame the kids for that? Plus, she was a SAHM when everyone did that. My mom was not. People would look down on a non-SAHMs back then. The funny thing is....I knew how to totally do stuff or figure it out or not have anxiety figuring it out. So, my mom technically was a better parent than the SAHMs babying their kids. For some reason the SAHMs of yesteryear thought they were doing god's work making PB&Js for their stupid kids. My mom taught me adulthood.
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I was trying to schedule a prospective client this week. He didn't call himself, he left it to Mumsie Dearest. Anyhoo, she didn't want the only available date because she couldn't drive him that day, I told her that the site was accessible by bus, and she was shocked at the very idea and informed me that "he can't take the bus, he's NINETEEN(!)". JFC, my father turned 19 on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific during WWII, my brother in law was in the jungles of Vietnam at that age. I can't even.
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I was trying to schedule a prospective client this week. He didn't call himself, he left it to Mumsie Dearest. Anyhoo, she didn't want the only available date because she couldn't drive him that day, I told her that the site was accessible by bus, and she was shocked at the very idea and informed me that "he can't take the bus, he's NINETEEN(!)". JFC, my father turned 19 on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific during WWII, my brother in law was in the jungles of Vietnam at that age. I can't even.
Re: 7th graders who have never used a knife or walked a dog March 25, 2021 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,196 |
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My neighbors had 4 kids and used to have these street and yard parties all the time, I never saw the kids as so much take a paper plate in the house or anything even super ez like that. They would actually lean against the fence and the adults would scurry around over every little thing.
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It's most likely not that the kids can't make their own lunches. It's that they can't be trusted to make semi-nutritious lunches, so their handlers have to pack their lunches for them. Or maybe they really are too lazy to even stuff a sack full of Mountain Dew and an entire family-size bag of Oreos and call it lunch.