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I had similar thoughts--I thought I was reading something from 1905.
Great to cripple your dotter and make her dependent on the graciousness of other adults for her financial support. What happens when her parents die? She becomes destitute and unable to support herself.
I'm curious about the person who posted it on Facebook. Did she post it as something to be seriously considered? If so, ladybug, you need a better class of friends.
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bell_flower
I had similar thoughts--I thought I was reading something from 1905.
Great to cripple your dotter and make her dependent on the graciousness of other adults for her financial support. What happens when her parents die? She becomes destitute and unable to support herself.
I'm curious about the person who posted it on Facebook. Did she post it as something to be seriously considered? If so, ladybug, you need a better class of friends.
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I still have had men make comments and assume someone else is supporting me and buying me nice things. When I have nice things it is because I buy them unless it is a Christmas or birthday gift. At this point I'm convinced I'll be asked about this at 80. I'll have idiots assuming I'm a widow and that my late husband is the one who provided my retirement life.
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I still have had men make comments and assume someone else is supporting me and buying me nice things. When I have nice things it is because I buy them unless it is a Christmas or birthday gift. At this point I'm convinced I'll be asked about this at 80. I'll have idiots assuming I'm a widow and that my late husband is the one who provided my retirement life.
When I moved to a major Southeastern city in the 1990's I had a guy ASSume that the nice furniture in my apartment came from an ex-husband. I was quick to tell him I bought it myself with a signing bonus from my job.
When I was starting out in my work life (late 70's early 80's) it was common for people to say crap like, a single woman doesn't "need" the same money as a man when doing a job because he has a fambilee to support. (Women with short memories or young women insist they are not feminists.) Feminism was all about equal pay for equal work and giving women economic equality. Women used to not be able to get credit in their own names, only their husband's name.
It's disheartening to think this attitude has not changed, but we can thank the "family friendly" mantra for keepings just as they were. Breeders are now demanding they not be "penalized" for their life choices and for working less than someone without kids. They want to tie pay to reproductive choices, not on the job performance.
The more things change, the more they remain the same!