Proud papa asks if he's an asshole for making his daughter do chores in exchange for pads May 19, 2021 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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I (50M) lost my wife ten years ago. It’s just me and my two kids N (17M) and E (F15), recently it caused a big stink with some family that my daughter does chores, but my son does not. I explained it’s because I have to spend extra on my daughter each month not only for her extra curriculars, but for her monthly supplies, so it‘s my way of having her pay me back. She cleans the shared living spaces and bathrooms in our apartment and cooks four meals a week. My brother said I spend twice as much on my sons extra curriculars and by my logic, he should have to do chores too. I explained he didn’t because I feel his could help him get into college but hers were just a hobby in my opinion.
E overheard me say this and was very upset. She started refusing to do chores because it isn’t fair. I told her she’d still be doing her chores and life isn’t fair so stop being a brat, or I’d refuse to pay for her extra curricular stuff or pads. I wouldn’t actually do that, but I was mad when I said it. She packed a bag and took off. She’s been staying with my sister who called me an abusive asshole when I demanded she send E home. My brother and sister are coddling her and I’m furious. N said I was being an asshole to E and that’s why she left. I’m completely fed up with the whole thing. AITA for expecting her to do chores?
ETA: My son plays Football and Baseball while you daughter is in choir and a dance group, so yes I do think my son has a better chance at getting a scholarship. I’m not sexist and I don’t appreciate being called one, and for those of you messaging me saying you hope someone calls CPS on me, I’m not doing anything wrong so that’s just stupid.
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bell_flower
I'm wondering if he has resentment because his wife died and left him with the kids and and he's taking it out on the daughter.
Re: Proud papa asks if he's an asshole for making his daughter do chores in exchange for pads May 20, 2021 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,841 |
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bell_flower
His singling out of menstruation is very disturbing. Maxi pads and tampons don't cost all that much and I'm sure he's buying the Great Athlete jock straps, cups, foot fungus cream and cream for jock itch.
I hope the kid stays with her aunt and lives in a house where she feels wanted, and she leaves and never looks back. As it is, she's probably going to have serious Daddy/relationship issues and she'll end up with the first guy who shows her a little bit of attention. Poor kid.
Re: Proud papa asks if he's an asshole for making his daughter do chores in exchange for pads May 21, 2021 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 1,978 |
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bell_flower
I'm wondering if he has resentment because his wife died and left him with the kids and and he's taking it out on the daughter.
Sounds about right, but I wonder if he only had a son, would he take his resentment over having to raise his own kids out on his son? Or does he target his daughter simply because she's female like his wife? Or maybe he's trying to turn his daughter into a domestic replacement for his wife - doing chores, cooking food for the menfolk and threatening to neglect her feminine health needs if she doesn't do her "duty." Or maybe he just hates women in general and feels his duty as a parent ends with his son and always saw his daughter as his wife's problem.
Re: Proud papa asks if he's an asshole for making his daughter do chores in exchange for pads May 21, 2021 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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Cambion
This was my first though. It wouldn't surprise me if he was one of those man-children we keep reading about on Breaking Moo, that don't lift a finger around the house and expect his mommy-wife to do all the cuntwork. Except his mommy-wife up and died, and now that the girl child is old enough he expects her to step in and play mommy-daughter.
Sounds about right!
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My second thought is she probably died to get away from him.
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nightfire
If pads or a tampon cost that much, then why isn't he getting her a Diva cup or something? They are reusable and they last 10 years. Or even reusable cloth pads. They last a long time too if they are cared for properly.
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