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Sometimes it isn't the parents being idiots... December 12, 2022 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,842 |
Ran into this On Quora.. a bit off topic but goes to show how child demented some women get... even when the child is grown with a kid of their own... the GK being an unwitting and unknowing tool... and again thank goodness judges can toss cases out of court
How can I protect myself from my mother in law who threatens to call the police on me? She apparently does this to all her children and children-in-law, saying they're abusing either their partner or their children. It's an effort to control us.
My cousin is married to an America, his MIL has pulled this exact stunt. Only she did it when they announced they were coming back to the UK for Christmas.
Her “reasoning” was that as they were in the US, they should spend Christmas with her, as they’d done for the last 4 years.
When my cousin said that they weren’t asking permission; they were going, she flew off the handle and said she’d call CPS saying he was sexually abusing their daughter, get him imprisoned and make sure he was divorced.
His wife had always made excuses for her mum’s behaviour but this stopped her in her tracks. She turned around and said that if her mother did that, she’d never see her Granddaughter again… ever.
On the date of departure they got to the airport and the police arrived. They were arrested on suspicion of child abuse, their daughter taken by Child Protection and funnily enough his MIL was there to witness it all… laughing. Unfortunately for her the CPS officer overheard her on the phone to someone saying “That’ll teach him to fuck with me. Now she’ll have to divorce him, he’ll never see the child again… I’ll make sure of that and I get back control of my daughter”.
At the police station they were booked in and the family lawyer called, who immediately called in a favour and got a specialist lawyer involved. The CPS officer however also had a word with the investigating officers to express her concern about the conversation she overheard. Which prompted the detective doing the investigation to interrupt the meeting with their lawyer to ask about any “issues” in the relationship with MIL/mother.
He & his wife both explained about the threat she’d made a few days earlier when they told her that they were visiting the UK for Christmas… and also what his wife had responded with. Apparently you could see the detective connecting the dots, he nodded and said he’d be back shortly, and disappeared. The lawyer asked them to tell her PRECISELY what happened… so they explained. The lawyer excused herself and went outside. She came back 15 minutes later. MIL had a petition for custody in front of a judge and their lawyer had an associate fighting it. It failed due to the CPS officer presenting evidence that they believed the accusation of child abuse was a malicious one. There were no signs of abuse of any kind.
My cousin and his wife were both interviewed and the detective was at great pains to point out that it was now a formality, as they had to investigate the claim and they had suspicions about the validity of the accusation.
They were bailed, passports confiscated and told to go home. My cousin rang his parents and told them what had happened. Then MIL appeared at the front door, behaving like a dog with two tails. His wife answered the door. He had the bright idea to record the interaction. His MIL confirmed she was behind the accusation as “your POS husband decided to fuck with me. You WILL spend Christmas at mine or it’s only going to get worse for you.”
His wife told her to go forth and multiply as she was no longer welcome anywhere near them and slammed the door in her face. Apparently this wasn’t over though. They rang the lawyer and sent her a copy of the conversation. The lawyer sent it to the detective who promptly NFAd the investigation and organised charges against MIL for a false accusation. Their daughter was returned to them that evening along with their passports.
They re-arranged their flight and got to his parents on Christmas Eve. The MIL was arrested the same day but couldn’t make bail so her lawyer rang her daughter for help… and was told in no uncertain terms that there was no way she was helping her after what she did, and she hoped she enjoyed Christmas in jail.
His wife went no contact in the new year, ghosted her mother completely and told every member of her family what she’d done. Many of them cut her off as well. They ended up getting a restraining order against her.
The final kicker. My cousin was offered a job back in the UK with his company, his wife said to take it, no hesitation and they moved a few months later. MIL found out and went to court to stop them it was the 1st time in months they’d seen her.
The judge laughed it out of court.
MIL died a couple of years ago. Her daughters reaction was “Oh dear, how sad. Thanks for letting me know… No, I won’t be coming back for the funeral.”
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.
The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
How can I protect myself from my mother in law who threatens to call the police on me? She apparently does this to all her children and children-in-law, saying they're abusing either their partner or their children. It's an effort to control us.
My cousin is married to an America, his MIL has pulled this exact stunt. Only she did it when they announced they were coming back to the UK for Christmas.
Her “reasoning” was that as they were in the US, they should spend Christmas with her, as they’d done for the last 4 years.
When my cousin said that they weren’t asking permission; they were going, she flew off the handle and said she’d call CPS saying he was sexually abusing their daughter, get him imprisoned and make sure he was divorced.
His wife had always made excuses for her mum’s behaviour but this stopped her in her tracks. She turned around and said that if her mother did that, she’d never see her Granddaughter again… ever.
On the date of departure they got to the airport and the police arrived. They were arrested on suspicion of child abuse, their daughter taken by Child Protection and funnily enough his MIL was there to witness it all… laughing. Unfortunately for her the CPS officer overheard her on the phone to someone saying “That’ll teach him to fuck with me. Now she’ll have to divorce him, he’ll never see the child again… I’ll make sure of that and I get back control of my daughter”.
At the police station they were booked in and the family lawyer called, who immediately called in a favour and got a specialist lawyer involved. The CPS officer however also had a word with the investigating officers to express her concern about the conversation she overheard. Which prompted the detective doing the investigation to interrupt the meeting with their lawyer to ask about any “issues” in the relationship with MIL/mother.
He & his wife both explained about the threat she’d made a few days earlier when they told her that they were visiting the UK for Christmas… and also what his wife had responded with. Apparently you could see the detective connecting the dots, he nodded and said he’d be back shortly, and disappeared. The lawyer asked them to tell her PRECISELY what happened… so they explained. The lawyer excused herself and went outside. She came back 15 minutes later. MIL had a petition for custody in front of a judge and their lawyer had an associate fighting it. It failed due to the CPS officer presenting evidence that they believed the accusation of child abuse was a malicious one. There were no signs of abuse of any kind.
My cousin and his wife were both interviewed and the detective was at great pains to point out that it was now a formality, as they had to investigate the claim and they had suspicions about the validity of the accusation.
They were bailed, passports confiscated and told to go home. My cousin rang his parents and told them what had happened. Then MIL appeared at the front door, behaving like a dog with two tails. His wife answered the door. He had the bright idea to record the interaction. His MIL confirmed she was behind the accusation as “your POS husband decided to fuck with me. You WILL spend Christmas at mine or it’s only going to get worse for you.”
His wife told her to go forth and multiply as she was no longer welcome anywhere near them and slammed the door in her face. Apparently this wasn’t over though. They rang the lawyer and sent her a copy of the conversation. The lawyer sent it to the detective who promptly NFAd the investigation and organised charges against MIL for a false accusation. Their daughter was returned to them that evening along with their passports.
They re-arranged their flight and got to his parents on Christmas Eve. The MIL was arrested the same day but couldn’t make bail so her lawyer rang her daughter for help… and was told in no uncertain terms that there was no way she was helping her after what she did, and she hoped she enjoyed Christmas in jail.
His wife went no contact in the new year, ghosted her mother completely and told every member of her family what she’d done. Many of them cut her off as well. They ended up getting a restraining order against her.
The final kicker. My cousin was offered a job back in the UK with his company, his wife said to take it, no hesitation and they moved a few months later. MIL found out and went to court to stop them it was the 1st time in months they’d seen her.
The judge laughed it out of court.
MIL died a couple of years ago. Her daughters reaction was “Oh dear, how sad. Thanks for letting me know… No, I won’t be coming back for the funeral.”
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.
The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
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Re: Sometimes it isn't the parents being idiots... December 12, 2022 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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Re: Sometimes it isn't the parents being idiots... December 15, 2022 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,842 |
freya, this only went on this long because moo couldn't break off her widdle mummy-kins. it took a near nuclear tragedy to finally wake her up. I haven't looked through it again but hubby probably wanted this cunt MIL gone from day one. another reason not to marry someone who is too enmeshed with their family
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.
The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.
The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
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