And here is another one, from AITA... talk about a FUCKING CLUELESS MOMMY. Good Lord... hopefully she is telling the truth and FINALLY realized what a cunt aunty was...
AITA for “forcing” my daughter to interact with her aunt - 8 August 2020
My daughter (16f) has been refusing to interact with her aunt(my sister). Aunt, who I’ll call Helen, comes over every Monday and Thursday to bring dinner and catch up with the family. My husband and I enjoy her company and it’s nice to have meals already made for two out of seven days.
My daughter, who I’ll call Amy, has been avoiding her aunt like she’s the plague. On Mondays and Thursdays Amy goes to either her friend’s or BF’s house. She leaves at around 10:00am and won’t come home until 10:30. We know that Amy isn’t doing anything bad because she’ll always tell us the night where she’s going, and will always come home before her curfew. I also have a tracker (which she knows about) on her phone so I know where she is. Amy has been doing this since the beginning on July.
Recently Helen has noticed that Amy is never home when she’s over. Helen loves Amy and really wants to spend time with her, but Amy refuses. On Thursday, after she came home and Helen left, I asked Amy why she keeps avoiding her Aunt, but then Amy blew up at me. Amy started yelling and crying about how horrible Aunt Helen is to her, and how she always makes Amy feel like crap. Amy also said that Helen is very mentally abusive towards her and is a gaslighter. I got very angry and told Amy that she’s overreacting, that Helen does/says things out of love and that she can’t help it. Amy continued to yell and cry about how “horrible” her aunt is. I told Amy that she was acting like a spoiled brat, and I proceeded to take her phone and all of her electronics away from her.
Today I talked to Amy and said that she now has to stay home on Mondays and Thursdays and spend an hour with Aunt Helen. If Amy doesn’t, then she’ll be grounded for two weeks and she won’t have her electronics for that time either. Amy started to cry, probably trying to guilt trip me, and she begged to at least only do this on Mondays. I said no, and I reminded her of her punishment if she refuses to comply. Amy called me an asshole and said things thag really hurt my feelings.
I told Helen about this and she thanked me for having my daughter stay home, after all she really does love Amy. My husband said that I went overboard with taking her things away, but believes that Amy is being a brat.
So reddit, AITA for forcing my daughter to interact with her aunt? I think that I’m in the right, but I want to see what you all think.
Verdict: YTA
Edit:
Amy has told me about some bad things Helen has said/done to her in the past. I understand those things and I’ve talked to Helen about those things. Helen has apologized and wants to make things up with Amy, but Amy has refused.
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(so I don’t have to respond to every question): When Amy was younger, she’d spend a lot of time over at Helen’s house. Helen is the type of person who says what’s on her mind, and she never holds back. Helen would tell Amy if she’s eating too much/too little, that she looked bad, didn’t look pretty, as well as other things. Amy claims that Helen would force her to eat a lot, even if Amy was uncomfortable. There are other things that Amy refuses to tell me, so all I know is that Helen has made a few comments here and there. I must also add that these comments were made YEARS ago.
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I really love Amy and I love Helen too. Helen admits to her wrongdoings but Amy is the one who doesn’t want to sit down and accept the apology.
Edit/Update:
I have read almost all of your responses and have looked through as many messages I can. Some of the things sent to me were devastating to say the least, but not as devastating as me realizing what I did to Amy. I fully accept that I am the asshole and there are no excuses to my actions. I apologized to Amy and said that whenever she’s ready to talk she can. I also told her that she doesn’t have to accept my apology. When Amy is ready, I’ll talk to her about Helen. I called Helen this morning and told her to not come over the next few weeks. She asked why but I didn’t give her an answer. I don’t want to confront Helen with anything until Amy feels it’s okay. After all, Amy is the one who suffered the most.
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CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
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