Another marriage ruined by a kid

My 2nd cousin is in her late twenties and had a kid about a year ago. She married a musician turned teacher and everyone acted as if the kid was the second coming as usual.

Turns out the husband is just smoking green smoke with jealousy over the kid and the fact that the wife looks at nothing but the kid and ignores him. I think maybe the guy was just another dude talked into breeding and reality hit him after the kid was born. His jealousy came up like a volcano, but I am sure he repressed his real feeling as you are not allowed to have socially inappropriate feeling without being bullied until you convert.

The moo is considering ending things. How can someone not know this could happen? Couldn't he imagine them with a kid that they can't undo and feel the feelings in his head before getting into parenthood in the real world?
If he leaves now or she kicks him out he is on the hook for child support anyways

It is too late to look for a cf woman and go the cf route

Anybody who doesn't know kids change your life has deliberately shoved their head up their ass. There's no way you can be alive, see other families, see other couples, see children, and not know the consequences of having your own. They're deliberately obtuse at this point if they insist they didn't know.

Exactly. Not only that, but there's so much being spoken about online by regretful breeders who wish they didn't do it. The evidence is all around them, but it's like they're willfully dumb and choose to ignore it or they think it won't happen to them.

I think a lot of people who breed for the first time think parenthood will just be the same life as before, just with a stroller. They have absolutely NO IDEA how much a loaf can derail a relationship.

It's not the first time I've heard of men who get shitty attitudes and complain that their wives don't pay any attention to them anymore after loafing because all their attention goes to the kid. My brother in Christ, if you do not want to share your wife's attention with someone else, then don't breed! Kids aren't like succulents where you water them once in a great while and that's all they need. They are insanely needy.

And what kind of asshat is jealous of his own kid? Like being upset that he doesn't get the same attention as before, but to be jealous of a kid that he helped make because he thinks he has the monopoly on his wife's attention is kind of pathetic. I'm assuming he's another Duh who doesn't lift a finger to raise his own kid, so Moo is basically a married single parent. Maybe if he pulled his weight more with his own damn kid, Moo would have to do less and could make more time for him.

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It is too late to look for a cf woman and go the cf route

Oh that doesn't stop them. They'll just lie about having kids to potential childfree partners because they know no childless or childfree woman will want them with baggage. Then they'll act absolutely shocked when they're three years into a relationship and their partner finds out they hid a child and leaves.

Maybe the jealousy thing means the guy really didn't want the kid and he is realizing it now. Kinda like a spouse who has a hobby that takes up a LOT of time and money, plus going to conventions and the spouse who is not into it like "why can't they just get over it?"

If a couple is both equally into "the hobby" there would not be jealousy. Someone could be jealous of an ex and they do not give a darn about the ex and would want them to go away. It could be sorta like that with a kid

Only it is a hobby they helped create that can't be dropped