"I am a quadriplegic and pregnant. I feel I'm not gonna be a good mom...

...but don't worry, I have a professional carer to take care of me AND raise my kid.

Tl;dr, woman is paralyzed from the neck down, recently discovered she's pregnant (conveniently avoiding questions as to whether or not she wanted to get pregnant) and is concerned that her feelings of being a burden on her husband and fear of being a bad mother are justified. When told she should start looking for a nanny or au pair, she responds, "I already have my caretaker as I mentioned on my post, she does practically everything for me when my husband is at work."

SHE'S EXPECTING HER FULL TIME CARETAKER TO ALSO ACT AS HER NANNY.

In situations like this I always wonder about the guy. I mean, the woman is on a ventilator. Pregnancy is not safe for her. Just why get her pregnant when she's struggling already.

Why?

Uh-huh, and is her caregiver aware of the fact that they are going to be expected to tend to the needs of two people now? Because I'm pretty sure they did not sign up to be nannies, and if Moo thinks the caregiver is just going to take over the job of parenting for her for the same amount of money, she's going to be very disappointed when the caregiver inevitably only agrees to wipe one butthole.

What the caregiver probably WILL do is contact CPS because how in the fuck can someone who is a quadriplegic raise a kid? Because if Moo is expecting the caregiver to just assume parenting duties and has no other care lined up for the brat, that probably constitutes neglect. Duh works nearly 12 hours a day, so he's not going to be much of a parent.

Who thought it was a good idea for her to get pregnant? A fucking human potato should not be having kids because she is incapable of actually taking care of them. She needs an abortion. She will not be able to do anything for her child because she can't even do anything for herself! Can't hold the kid, can't feed it, can't change it, can't wake up at night with it, nothing.

Speaking of nighttime, is her husband going to have to wake up and deal with the crying brat? I bet he's gonna love that when he works 7am to 6pm five days a week. She will need to have a nanny 24/7 to deal with the inevitable hourly nighttime wake-ups.

As far as the pregnancy, if she is paralyzed from the neck down, how is she going to know if she's in labor? I mean sure, she can have a planned C-section, but what if her uterus starts yeeting the loaf early? How will she know if she can't feel her water break or can't feel contractions?

And shame on the people in the comments. Not a single person is telling her what a horrible idea it is for her to be breeding. It's real nice and all that she can wuv her baybee, but wuv will not make up for the fact that she cannot actually care for her child. Not to mention the child will likely wind up becoming a secondary caregiver to Moo and will absolutely not have a normal childhood. Duh will likely need to work even more hours to afford a nanny on top of a caregiver too.

This is just such a horrible idea. I really hope she miscarries. Someone who is quadriplegic does not need a child.

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bell_flower
In situations like this I always wonder about the guy. I mean, the woman is on a ventilator. Pregnancy is not safe for her. Just why get her pregnant when she's struggling already.

Why?

The more sinister answer to that is, to unburden himself without everyone in his life thinking he's an asshole for leaving his disabled wife....

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Cambion
Uh-huh, and is her caregiver aware of the fact that they are going to be expected to tend to the needs of two people now?

And one of them an infant! My guess is the answer to your question is a big fat NO. The caregiver has no idea. For the OP's sake, I hope she mentions it to said caregiver in time for them to nope the fuck out so she can either abort or make other arrangements. But my guess is she'll wait until the carer notices she's pregnant before springing it, so that it's "too late" to do anything except have the kid. Her whole post screamed of "reinforce my poor choices" rather than an honest request for advice. She knows damn well she's fucking up. She just wants to have a kid, anyway.