"I’m A Surgeon. I’m Also Child-Free"

Decent article outlining a lot of the garbage surrounding childfreedom.

I’m A Surgeon. I’m Also Child-Free — And 6 Words From A Colleague About My Life Left Me Stunned.

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“I’m really sorry that I talk about my kids so much,” one friend responded after I tried to explain the static I heard from others when stating that I would not have kids. I was so confused and painfully aware of the huge disconnect between us at that moment. While I was attempting to detail the blanket judgment by society on women without children — and how much I have struggled to overcome other people’s assumptions that I must be distraught about the life I so enjoy or the idea that my freedom is somehow conditional and temporary — the conversation with my friend had apparently only aroused guilt in her for the many times she shared sweet memories or minor complaints with me about her kids. She couldn’t understand that her life — her choice — did not make me sad. My comments weren’t about her life. They were about mine.

At first I was like Wow I wish one of my friends would say this to me, even if kinda missing the point of my convo. Then I realized that no, I guess not, this moo just made the convo about herself instead of the CF prsn. Then again, at least she didnt unleash some unsung resentment that's been seething beneath the surface of their friendship. Or, my pals just stare and probably think "hey what do you expect, youre not like everyone else and since you dont conform you deserve it." As many ppl do so much to subconsciously fit in, even as an adult, they think it a bizarre feat to be unique w/ your real life. They usually come up w/ some real obvious bingo to explain to the sorry CF prsn why a parented life is how it is, and ppl are just asking or explaining and they are exhausted so they might come off as judgmental, blah blah blah. For some reason they dont think CFs can relate to anything, not understanding we have actually thought all this out and that's why we are CF.

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At first I was like Wow I wish one of my friends would say this to me, even if kinda missing the point of my convo. Then I realized that no, I guess not, this moo just made the convo about herself instead of the CF prsn.

Yeah, it struck me as a very passive aggressive pout.