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Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption

Posted by cfdavep 
Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 09, 2024
https://old.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1fz8tl8/atah_for_wanting_to_break_up_with_my_husband/

If it is reddit, it may not be true, but another refund desire. Duh wants to ditch their 5 year old awtard and moo wants to divorce him. I bet the kid is a nightmare with a life headed for the group homes.
Duh says he misses life the way it used to be
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 09, 2024
misses life teh way it used to be. I have news for duh-tard. even if tardleigh was normal it still wouldn't be 'back to normal'..

the jerks truly deserve the hell they breed themselves into.

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 09, 2024
I wonder if there are more parents than anyone ever imagined sitting up at night wondering about a "rehome"
The worst ones do a car sizzle in the summer or just let them run, hoping they will have a fatally unlucky day.

But maybe there are a lot of better ones who sit up at night trying to strategize a solution to their greatest regret especially if the kid is mentally disabled, Most would not be able to rehome and would give up at the thought of family and society turning on them and would just suck it up
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 10, 2024
I saw it and I'm copying it because you know it's going to disappear:

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I (30F) have been married to my husband (32M) for five years. We've had our share of problems like any couple, but this one’s really shaken me to my core. We have a son (5M) who was diagnosed with autism about two years ago. Of course, it hasn't been easy, but I love him with all my heart. He's sweet, and despite the challenges, I could never imagine life without him.

Lately, my husband has been acting different. He’s more distant, like he’s checked out emotionally. I chalked it up to stress from work or maybe just that we're both overwhelmed trying to balance everything. But then I overheard something that I can't unhear. He was talking to a couple of his friends, and they were discussing kids, parenting, etc. One of his friends made some off-hand comment about how hard parenting is, and that’s when my husband just... let loose.

He started saying how our son is "too much to handle" and that he feels like "he’s a burden." He even mentioned that sometimes he wishes we could give him up for adoption, like WHAT?! I couldn’t believe it. At first I thought maybe he was just frustrated and saying things out of anger or stress, but he kept going. He wasn’t just venting. He said he missed the freedom we had before becoming parents and that he thinks it would be "better for everyone" if we weren’t stuck with this life.

I was absolutely crushed. How could he talk about our son like that? I would NEVER give up on him, not for anything. He’s not a burden—he’s a beautiful boy who just needs more understanding and patience. Hearing my husband say those things about him just shattered me inside.

When I confronted him, he brushed it off, saying I was overreacting and that he didn’t really mean it, that he was just blowing off steam with his friends. But how can I not take that seriously? He’s literally talking about abandoning our son! He didn’t apologize. He said he’s just overwhelmed and feels like our son’s autism is taking over our lives and that he doesn't know how much more he can take. But instead of working through it together, he's talking about running away from the problem.

Now I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I can’t stay with someone who sees our child as a burden. But I also feel so torn because we’re married, and I thought we’d always have each other’s backs, especially when it comes to raising our child. But if he’s really feeling like this, how can I trust him to be there for our son and me in the long run?

I don’t want to break up our family, but I also can’t stay with someone who could even think about giving up our child. I love my son more than anything, and I will never allow that.

So, ATAH for wanting to leave my husband after this? Should I be trying harder to work this out or is it too far gone?

I would venture to guess what's happening here is that Moo is enabling the kid to be a brat and Dud isn't allowed to intervene. She's talking about working through it together, but I wonder how much of Dud's input she's listening to.

They'll be just another couple that broke up after having a special need child. Let's hope Moo doesn't keep enabling him and unleashing another Adam Lanza on the world.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 10, 2024
yeah, bratleigh is 'sweet'.. we all know that the majority of moos have their heads up their ass or their bastards ass. but then, males are also cowards and don't want to help as well. could be a mixture

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 10, 2024
Caregiver burnout is what the comments refer to. I don't think so. A small reprieve isn't going to fix this for the duh. There is none of that "I love him but" nonsense coming from his mouth.

I think it is an instance where the moo is being overwhelmed with hormones so she loves her son even though dealing with him is a complete pain in the ass. I also think her duh didn't experience these bonding hormones, so the brat is just a pain in the ass to him that requires tons of patience and modifications to live with.

The only thing that keeps parents from abandoning their brats are those hormones and when they don't experience them you get this kind of scenario. And when the brat is also neurodivergent it is only going to make it worse.

Predict a divorce as I highly doubt the duh is going to get past this.

And, in the comments. This:
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commenter
Fact - Children ARE a burden regardless of abilities.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 11, 2024
Could be the guy is burned out dealing with a flaptard. Maybe he's frustrated, maybe he means it. I have a feeling he would not be heartbroken if Moo left him because it would me he wouldn't have to deal with his autistic spawn every single day since he likely would not get custody.

Looks like quite a few people are actually calling Moo the asshole because she dismissed his feelings as being mean and awful and immediately jumped on the divorce bandwagon instead of acknowledging the possibility that he's struggling to deal with an awtard. If she thinks her brat is a flawless cherub who is solely responsible for the rising and setting of the sun, then that's terrific. Duh obviously does not feel the same.

Meanwhile I bet if Moo said she wished she could put the kid up for adoption, people would be sympathetic and understand that she's having a hard time. You know how many times I've seen Moos online say they're thinking about selling their kid to gypsies or asking some random stranger in a store, "Hey you wanna buy a kid? LOL" when the kid is 15 minutes into a red-faced meltdown?

And why was she eavesdropping on his conversation with his friends? He probably knew he couldn't say this to Moo because she'd react like, well, THIS. He is likely distancing himself from the brat because he doesn't want to deal with it. Or he's depressed. I like how she never even says she wants to talk to him about what he said - just straight to divorce. I hope the guy either does leave or gets therapy because if he's burned out when the awtarded brat is just five, the kid is gonna get worse and Duh might snap if he has to stay.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 13, 2024
I see far too many posts of awtards who are just plain bullies. they manipulate, lie, abuse and the P's, mostly the handwringing spineless moos, are the ones who allow it or encourage it.

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 13, 2024
Moo and Duh need to start the search for a tard home NOW!

+++++++++++++

Passive Aggressive
Master Of Anti-brat
Excuses!
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 23, 2024
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I saw it and I'm copying it because you know it's going to disappear

You're right. It's gone, deleted by the poster. I wonder if she didn't like how many people were telling her that her husband isn't wrong or abnormal to feel that way.
Re: Duh wants to give up awtard for adoption
October 25, 2024
The same whatever (social contract or whatever it is called) that makes people feel obligated to have kids is what keeps them from giving them up for adoption. Sometimes. Other times the social contract isn't enough. If everyone were to suddenly abandon the social contract we'd have a serious epidemic of abandoned children on our hands.
 
Makes me very happy to be an agnostic childfree who couldn't be brainwashed or guilted into breeding and laughs at the social contract, traditionalism, etc.
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