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Dude on reddit stuck dealing with ex for 18 years
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Dude on reddit stuck dealing with ex for 18 years March 08, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,228 |
He knew this could happen when he banged her, yet they still do it and complain later:
"i share a kid with a woman who has BPD. It was brief fling. and now I'm in a special hell. Can you imagine being required to interact with your ex, legally speaking (and because it's the right thing for the kid) for an extra 18 years after you ended things?
I've got 11 more years. Can't wait until the day i can block her on everything and delete all messages and her contact and never see her name or face again.
Oh, but it will. she moved across the country while pregnant. The only reason i need to interact with her is for logistics. once my kid is 18, i have zero need to interact with her mother. her college graduation and possible future wedding(s) are instances where i may have to see her, but i am not obligated to interact with her. my daughter has never observed us saying more than a sentence or two to each other, and now that she travels unaccompanied, she doesn't observe any interaction. I'm sure as she gets older, she'll have questions, and wonder why we can't "get along" -- but i won't be having any serious conversations about it until she's an adult. I'll say the "right" things to ensure I'm never saying anything bad about her mom.
if mom moved back, sure, it could transition to a more normal co-parenting dynamic. but the reality is: she stole my baby. there is no forgiveness or forgetting until she remedies the geographical distance she created.
"i share a kid with a woman who has BPD. It was brief fling. and now I'm in a special hell. Can you imagine being required to interact with your ex, legally speaking (and because it's the right thing for the kid) for an extra 18 years after you ended things?
I've got 11 more years. Can't wait until the day i can block her on everything and delete all messages and her contact and never see her name or face again.
Oh, but it will. she moved across the country while pregnant. The only reason i need to interact with her is for logistics. once my kid is 18, i have zero need to interact with her mother. her college graduation and possible future wedding(s) are instances where i may have to see her, but i am not obligated to interact with her. my daughter has never observed us saying more than a sentence or two to each other, and now that she travels unaccompanied, she doesn't observe any interaction. I'm sure as she gets older, she'll have questions, and wonder why we can't "get along" -- but i won't be having any serious conversations about it until she's an adult. I'll say the "right" things to ensure I'm never saying anything bad about her mom.
if mom moved back, sure, it could transition to a more normal co-parenting dynamic. but the reality is: she stole my baby. there is no forgiveness or forgetting until she remedies the geographical distance she created.
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Re: Dude on reddit stuck dealing with ex for 18 years March 10, 2025 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 3,852 |
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Re: Dude on reddit stuck dealing with ex for 18 years March 11, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,228 |
I can't believe people do not think of these things, that if someone has a kid with someone then they will be dealing with the ex for the rest of their lives when it is SO obvious.
Over on TwoX there are divorced women admitting they had a kid with the wrong dude and call it a "hell they would not wish on their worst enemy"
I wonder if some of them are the same types that harass the CF online under different handles
Over on TwoX there are divorced women admitting they had a kid with the wrong dude and call it a "hell they would not wish on their worst enemy"
I wonder if some of them are the same types that harass the CF online under different handles
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