More "unconditional" parental love

More bad parenting via reddit: guy claims a "close bond" with his daughter, in spite of divorce and his wife remarrying "quickly." Daughter grows up and gets engaged, and asks him to walk her down the aisle. Then shortly before the wedding he has an accident that requires temporary use of a wheelchair. She asks him if it's okay with him if stepdad walks her instead, and that she won't do it if Dad says no. Dad says okay, lets the whole thing take place without complaint, and then cuts her off even with her continually begging to fix the relationship. He tells her he doesn't care when she gets pregnant and refuses to meet his grandchild, all because she did something he told her it was okay to do.

(The daughter told him it was a "mistake" to ask him if stepdad could walk her, but as an ambulatory wheelchair user myself I think someone new to a chair, especially since it was likely a manual one, would not be a great choice to accompany a bride. Maybe it could have been handled better, but she wasn't wrong to think it might not go well. This guy is just a poor excuse for a father if all it took to cut her out of his life was one decision he didn't like, even though it was one he signed off on.)

AITA for being a shit dad

these big expensive weddings are idiotic. the funds could be used better elsewhere and on more practical things rather than an ego trip.

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.

I also heard or read somewhere that if you want a marriage to last, cancel the honeymoon. There is something about this after wedding vacation that makes for more chance of divorce, so couples should save their money.

is it just me but I find weddings and the reception noisy and boring. I went to a wedding last year that cost as much as a house and I did not want to be there (It was at a stadium and I was curious what the place was like but I should not have gone). Besides it's "their day" so do the guests actually matter at all?

""I also heard or read somewhere that if you want a marriage to last, cancel the honeymoon.""

interesting..

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.

What I've often heard is the bigger and more lavish the wedding, the less likely the marriage is to last. I think because, in many cases, a big flashy expensive wedding is more about the bride wanting to be a princess and the center of attention for a day than about her wanting to actually be in a committed relationship. Then when she realizes she has become legally attached to someone who she might not even like or be compatible with, they get divorced within three months.

I personally don't like weddings for a number of reasons, the biggest one being that they are boring and I hate dressing up. They can be such a waste of money when that money could go toward a down payment on a house or something else the couple might need. Wedding gowns themselves are the biggest damn scam ever too. Why is it men can rent tuxedos, but women can't rent wedding gowns? At least tuxedos could potentially be worn again to fancy parties or maybe Halloween. Women are required to buy a dress that might cost four figures. Where the fuck else can you wear a wedding dress? You can't even wear it to another wedding.

And weddings are so boring and drawn out. I've been to a couple and I was bored at both. They had the right idea in Spaceballs. "Do you? Do you? Good! You're married! Kiss her!" Then go party on the beach afterwards or something.

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What I've often heard is the bigger and more lavish the wedding, the less likely the marriage is to last. I think because, in many cases, a big flashy expensive wedding is more about the bride wanting to be a princess and the center of attention for a day than about her wanting to actually be in a committed relationship.

I read an anonymous bit from an ordained minister (has a flock and all, not a 10 dollar online ordination) that basically confirms your hypothesis. He also threw in age: the younger the couple and the fancier the wedding, the more likely it'll end in divorce.

He sounds very passive aggressive, so the breakdown was going to happen sooner or later.

If I were to get married again I'd have a wedding with immediate family only (probably in my yard) and then invite everyone (18+) to a restaurant afterwards to celebrate.

My future husband can treat me like a princess every day and not wait for a silly wedding as an excuse to do so.