What we CFs already know: “My kids will be there for me in my old age” "No they will not "

From Reddit: No your kids likely won't be there for you when you get old.

"I’m a paramedic, meaning I spend a LOT of time around elderly folks. I can count on my fingers the number of times I’ve had face-to-face, productive conversations with patients’ children about their care. The rest of the time they park Meemaw in a decrepit nursing home (because the good places are ridiculously expensive) and move across the country, or live 20 minutes away but never visit, or are estranged for one reason or another. I once had a patient’s daughter/POA tell me, “I don’t care if she’s having a heart attack, you’re not taking her to the hospital.” I’ve had a few older CF patients over the years and they seem so much happier since they’re not waiting for their annual is-grandma-dead-yet Christmas visit. I’d much rather use the money I would have spent on kids, on a lovely place to live out my final years with my partner and a few cats.

(I’m not demonizing these adult children, I love my parents to death but I wouldn’t drop my whole life to come take care of them, and they don’t expect me to. I’m sure there’s an extra layer of reluctance when the parents were abusive, or if dementia has made them unrecognizable.)"

You can read the comments if you wish: https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/1n3r9au/my_kids_will_be_there_for_me_in_my_old_age_no/

Just another observation made on Regretful Parents, who also resent the saying "who will take care of you when you get old" as a manipulative phrase.



"I work in a care home. 42 residents. Maybe 3 have regular visitors, about 10 have some visitors sometimes. They ALL have children, every single one of them."