Ego-centric Breeders give future uncle & aunt gross surprise gift

From Reddit, stupid breeders give their sib and spouse, who are struggling with cancer and infertility, a 'gift' about their parasite and need to record their reaction, because it is oh so important!
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My wife (f, 38) has a younger brother (m, 34). He’s clearly the most beloved in the family that can do no wrong, but he’s a good guy. He has a girlfriend (also a very nice girl) and they moved together last year

Now, me and my wife wanted to have kids, but 4y ago she was diagnosed with cancer and while she’s luckily in total remission, therapies stop us from even trying (and given her age, it means that we will probably never have kids).

One month ago we were invited by her parents for lunch with the brother and the girlfriend, but unfortunately my wife got ill (she’s still very fragile) the evening before, and we had to cancel. They reprogrammed two weeks later, but again she got high fever in the morning and we could not join.

For some reason, everybody sounded very angry at this, her brother even asking me if I thought it was only stress and not a real illness. I got a bit pissed, explained that fever is real, and close the conversation.

Finally, yesterday we had the dinner. At the end they told that there was a gift for us and they wanted to record our reaction with their phones. Inside the package there was a pregnancy test. My wife started ugly crying, saying that it was happiness and hugging/crying for a few minutes the future mum. I went through different stages (happiness for them, regret, pain for my wife) and my brother-in-law said something along the lines “now you know why i was upset for you skipping the dinners!” To which I (with a less than pleasant tone) answered that they could have simply called us, and no need to make all that scene. Everyone around us was shocked and uncertain how to react, my wife started feeling unwell (actually, fever again) so we basically left.

Now, I know I should say sorry to them, but at the same time the fact that nobody, even her mother, thought that this could have been a somewhat stressing moment for my wife makes me upset. They have all the rights to be happy, and we should be for them. So I feel I’m the asshole here

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1sp24dv/aita_for_not_being_happy_at_becoming_an_uncle/
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The brother here, come on, like "do you think its just stress" So what is the hub supposed to do? Ask his cancer patient wife, hey you think youre not really sick today and its just stress, maybe we should go out to dinner anyway?"

The comments correctly indicate this is ridic to record and a ridic gift and putting a pee stick in a box just shouldnt be done. Yes, just call them, and tell them. Seems like the whole dinner was planned solely for the fact they wanted to record something stupid for social media.

Becuz while I dont have cancer or infertility issues, I would have just opened the box, been rather grossed out and miffed this is how they made the announcement, trying to hide my disgust, and just smiled and gave a cheery 'congrats' and maybe give the couple a hug. I never cared when anyone made announcements like this at a dinner...yippee for you...wish I could give you a crystal ball to look at all the complaining that's gonna start once your life is on hold 24/7. and youre finishing your WFH stuff at 1am, so you can cook and entertain your bratz after school. Great life, lets celebrate it now!


Remeber, breeding makes you a better, kinder person! Not insensitive oafs!

Boy nothing makes the appetite surge like having a used piss stick presented to you in a box at the dinner table.

Just goes to show that breeders absolutely do not care about anything other than bragging about their fertile loins. Yes, let's present proof of our pregnancy to the couple we know want kids and can't have them. I'm sure they would have been happy to know about it, just not like this and so publicly. The fact they presented the test with the intent to record the couple's reaction is proof it was 100 percent attention whoring. Why the hell should the author or his wife apologize? The breeders should be apologizing for being insensitive about their pignasty announcement.

They knew she had cancer and was medically fragile and yet chose to do this to her. Those relatives are pieces of shit.

He thinks he needs to apologize to them?

After her genuine reaction and his response, THEY ALL SHOULDA THOUGHT IT OVER AND CALLED TO APOLOGIZE TO THE UNCLE AND AUNT. The fact it was soooo important to record their reaction that they scheduled a dinner w/ a sick person 3x says it all. Imagine being mad a recovering cancer patient is sick so you can't go to dinner. Breeder brain has to be a real thing, bcz my old friends never became so rude in tiny ways and self-centered until they started breeding. They honestly don't return to their old selves til maybe the kids are 25.

I shouldn't have read this post again bcz it got my dander up. LOL

I hate kids and I still think this is horrible. If somebody did something equivalent to me, I'd cut them off. This is beyond tone deaf.

Nothing surprises me when it comes to breeders. They are self centered cretins and there's no low they won't stoop to.

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