Did your summers look like this?

I can’t take the not listening anymore


I hate summer break. We’re one week in and 9 weeks to go. At 9am this morning I started crying. Went to take a shower and locked the door so my 6 year old leaves me alone.

Y’all. He DOeS NOT LISTEN. Not to instructions, not to rules, to to me asking him to do a chore, clean up after himself …. Nothing.

Friday was his first official day of summer break. I took him to a trampoline park. Over the weekend we swam and had a bbq, he got to see his grandparents. Tuesday I took him to an aquarium. Wednesday I took him to a splash park. Today is Thursday and his ten month twin sisters have a dr appointment. I can’t take or do anything fun with him today.

We’re having renovations done to our back master bedroom and everyone’s schedules are thrown off. The workers are here for about ten hours, which is why I’ve been trying to do fun things out of the house.

I’m beat and over it.

My son acts up and frankly, doesn’t deserve all I do for him. He wants more, more, more. More play time, another park, another movie, another game. He’s never been good at independent play. For some reason he never goes to his dad. It’s always me. He’s with me 12 plus hours a day. I need space. He’s more work than my ten month old medical needs twins!!! That’s not even an exaggeration.

I’ve already played in his room today. We built some castle thing with his blocks and then did a party with his stuffed animals. It’s hard to find it “fun” when a baby is crying in the next room and my house is a mess. Laundry, dishes, clutter.

If I go to take a nap in another room, he follows me to wake me up. He HATES when I nap. What he doesn’t see is I was woken up four times last night by one of the twins. Other nights I’m up 7 times. I think I get 3 hours max a night consecutive of sleep.

And so I’m snapping. I’ve cussed at him. Been overly rude. “Why can’t you leave me alone!?” My parents would have already lost patience and slapped me out of pure frustration. He’s bringing out the worst in me. I’m negative. Impatient. Regretting this life.

Are children meant to completely break you?? This feels like a torture tactic.

Will he ever leave me alone ??

EDIT: He’s going to a summer reading program for the entire month of June. From 8am - 12. I’m hoping that helps with his boredom. He’s also going to a one week camp at the zoo in mid July. In the inbetween weeks I’m trying to set up play dates with other moms and their children. I thought about signing him up for karate during the week, but honestly, it feels like another reward for his awful behavior. Money I’m spending, and I’d be the one loading the twins up and driving him around.

https://www.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/1tq8dkt/i_cant_take_the_not_listening_anymore/
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Why do these moos, and it's basically all of them mind you, make themselves a cruise director for the summer? My summers were outside playing w/ kids on the block or by myself as an only child, otherwise my neighbors played w/ their sibs. Why can't today's moos have (and teach) their offspring how to play independently and hopefully somewhat quietly? Did any of you have an event outing every single day of the week? Or anything? As an older teen, I recall some of the young moms sunning themselves everyday while kids played in sprinklers and kiddie pools, that's it.

I think being CF is becoming more popular becz the Breeders have made it 24/7 hands on instead of just 'go out and play', so either birth rate is gonna continue to go down, or the pendulum will finally swing back to free range childhoods(and maybe parents getting stricter so their kids know how to act from a young age, on their own, so not to create havoc or kill themselves while out and about)

Even a moo on one of these Reddits said my mom didnt have me around for 10 hrs of the day, she had it so much better than me as a parent. Well, learn from that. How do these likely educated women not know how to control your day? Sure I'm not a parent, but it is obvious they LET their kids do all this, and rule the roost. Lead the day as the adult, and if they dont follow, put in consequences every time. And, dont have a 2nd or 3rd kid for heaven's sake!

Reading these subreddits is so entertaining I just cant stop. Sounds soooo worth it.