Why do young adults want to spend SO much time w/ their parents?

I certainly dont get it. My friends and I weren't like this whatsoever. My SILs were kinda like that but they were spoiled lil princesses, got a lot of stuff bought for them, and 1 of them basically had no friends. Look below, who wants to hang w/ mom and day everywhere they go? Why can't mom and dad ask for some private time?

From Stepparents subreddit:

How to escape on the weekends, ideas?

I have decided I’m leaving on the weekends. I’ve had enough. My SK, 23 years old, making 65k per year lives with us full time. I can’t take it anymore. She’s up our asses on the weekends. All day Friday, Saturday and Sunday. From morning to nighttime. She never leaves our sides. Movies, dinners, pool, sitting on the couch, tv shows, etc. she won’t leave.

I’m over it. I told my husband she has until Summer 2027 to move out or I’m leaving. He told me to stop threatening him.

I can’t fully rest on the weekends from my job bc I feel like I am stuck entertaining her and p putting a mask on (I’m diagnosed asd-1) All I want is to be left the hell alone. I require a lot of alone time to recover and I am getting none. I can’t take it anymore. I am going to start leaving every weekend. I’ve had enough.

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The comments go on from her how Dad wont look for an apt for her...again, isnt that something you do for yourself, or w/ your friends? Comments tell her, to take a bath, and lay naked in the bedroom watching TV for some 'me time', and def say this is a do not disturb time. Imagine the lengths you have to go to shake an adult kid??!

Heres more from the same subreddit:

SD thinks she’s the reason I’m with her dad
Win!
Today is my anniversary. My partner and I have been together for 8 amazing years.

My SD16 had a half day today for finals and came home while I was showering, so of course she had to come in and ask me where I was going. I told her that her dad and I were going to lunch, she asked if she could go with us and I told her no, that she couldn’t go because it was OUR anniversary. She said she should be allowed to go because she was the only reason that I was with her dad.

Oh honey, I’m so happy that you feel so incredibly loved that you think YOU are the reason I am with this man when in fact, you were the only reason I almost wasn’t-my only other long term relationship was with a man who had a child and I swore I would never do it again.

Anyways, the three of us are now on our way to go out to lunch!


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Again, Im a teen, I got a half day either to hang w/ friends, chill, or study for another final at my own pace, and dad and mom aint gonna be home, perfect time to be a kid! Not these kids, they want a restaurant meal, and hand w/ adults instead of their friends having fun w/o parents. The last couple decades have bred weird children in my mind. A commentor on the above said, giving in doesnt help remind her she's not the center of the universe and shouldnt b on their date. Show her attention at home since she's a teen that likes being w/ adults, but she should not be on your planned date.


But it goes to show, from a stepparents POV, you can know your stepkids for a decade, they can no longer even be annoying lil kids or teens, you just dont like being w/ them, and as adults SHOULD grow apart for your parents, and the parents finally need adult time too. And, now you have to give ultimatums and find hide outs to avoid them. TBH, I'd just go to the gym, and get real buff in the meantime, hoping you get no tagalongs--hopefully the adult kid is too lazy to work out. Or, tell the hub you want to spend the day at a fancy hotel, they have them around by me w/ golfing, massages, ping pong, cards, whatever else and say you want romance in the room, a relaxing day alone w/ her man, one would hope hub/dad would go for that at least once a month.


Sorry about lack of formatting but the buttons have disappeared for me? Maybe they will come back.