those who use so much profanity do so because of a limited vocabulary. as far as me *&^%$ my opinion and leaving, isn't that what you consistently do and what this website is made for? if you go to the irs, you can do away with your social security card altogether, of course you have to have an occupation making so little money like farming or some such, that it wouldn't make any difference to the irs if you didn't pay any income taxes, and it has to be an occupation that makes little to nothing. this can be done in tennessee and alaska, and for farming on small acreage, but i don't know about any other states or occupations. you must be careful about where you get your information as well, the irs won't give you this information on the phone. so no, my husband won't be explaining any tax breaks to me anytime soon.
after seeing so many kids thrown away while growing up, i am continually taking in 5-10 children on a regular basis, no questions asked. (against my doctor's advice). if i don't, no one else will, and our community will end up with a new generation of even worse children running around....but, when i go to the grocery store, i try to leave the older ones with as many of the younger ones at home as i can, because of all the dirty looks and harrassment i know i will be getting when i get to the store. people will come up and even ask "do they all have the same dad?" or "are they all yours?"...so i DO understand exactly where you guys are coming from with all the harrassment you have to continually deal with every day just for choosing to be cf....being cf i don't even think is a lifestyle, i believe it is something you ALREADY ARE....why would it be anyone else's business? i personally have never even thought about it or considered it, or have asked a friend when they will be having kids, unless i knew they wanted kids....
as far as if my son said he didn't want to have kids....my oldest son has stated repeatedly that he isn't going to have kids and doesn't want them...he wants to do other things with his life...i must admit that it did sting to hear that...i was looking forward to having grandkids after having to have a hysterectomy 1 and 1/2 yrs ago due to medical problems...we had tried to have another kid with no success, and couldn't bear the pain anymore....but, i respect my son't wish, i don't pressure him with my desire for him to have children. it's a personal choice. having children is a lifetime committment that even the best of parents are suprprised at the work. i would hate to live with the knowledge that i pressured him to have kids to satisfy my need to nuture a child and he had to live with it....so i respect his decision, and tell him even now, at 13, that if he doesn't want children, i understand and support him.
i will state again that i found this site by complete accident, it is powered my the same mechanism as my pain chat phorum that i was having problems with and i was trying to sort it all out, and came across it. so, i have never trolled a site ever in my life. you have a right to your opinion, but i also have a right to mine. but all i am saying, by reading the posts, like you said, i am making sweeping generalizations...well, there is nothing in the posts that ever says anything good about any parent or child out there anywhere....have any of you guys out there EVER seen a parent or child do anything RIGHT? ever? it just seems from reading the posts, that you guys hate children and the parents that bring them into this world no matter what. i didn't come on this site to complain about my medical bills or profess to be perfect....to the contrary, but to say that there are some of us, (be it few, yes, i admit) that DO try do raise their own and take in others that don't care at all about their own, that DON'T complain, that DON'T live on welfare, that DO educate their children on their own without anyone else's help, and that DON'T give their children free reign in public places, etc. the site does welcome raves as well as rants, but i don't see any raves....though i must admit myself there are few parents out there deserving of a rave when it comes to their children in public places....at least some of us without a role model or example and are having to "wing it" are making the best of it, is all i am saying.....seems like that should be worth at least something when so many mothers are out there dumping their kids on me, and then calling from their boyfriend's house a hundred miles away two weeks later to find out what junior wants for his birthday after we already had the birthday a week ago. look, i am not asking or looking for sympathy, just some respect, i look after MY kids, and others on top of that...we have only three bedrooms, but we should have ten....we don't get a thank-you, we don't get paid, we don't even get any money for their food or their clothing or the gas it takes to haul them around...their parents just figure that's what we are here for.....i don't complain because i was a throw away kid too...and i believe in GOD...he will not forget me, or these parents who are just having kids as if they are just nothing more than dogs...GOD says that "whoever shall offend one of these little ones...it would be better that he would have never been born"..that's just for OFFENDING,not abusing, abandoning, dumping them with someone else.....in the meantime, I would appreciate some open-mindedness with the cf's when they see me in the grocery store, i am not allowed by law to spank other people's children as i would my own, (like when jesse is running down the aisle like an idiot and i am calling after him to come back and people are staring at me thinking i am his mom), give us a break, i am doing the best i can with these kids, teaching them some respect and manners, so they won't grow up to be criminals and such, i don't like to be harrassed for "having so many kids" any more than you like to be harrassed for being cf