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In The Same Boat
I understand all that you state in your post. I am 48, single, never married, and while I have a good income/career, financially secure, etc. it isn't all that fulfulling. Netflix and my pets are my life savers.
It sounds like you really, really want to become a parent. Have you thought about becoming a foster parent and also getting certified for adoption of foster children in your state? A good friend of mine, female, a 52 year old government attorney, simply reached the conclusion "Mr. Right" wants "Miss 20 year Old" and she adopted a sibling pair of girls who had their parental rights terminated by the State. My friend is so glowingly happy; the girls are thriving. It is work, my frind says, and the children "did come with baggage" but she says becoming a foster parent and adopting was the best thing she ever did.
Your posted helped me too. I feel the same vexations that you also express in your post. I hope this helps, perhaps a bit.
Signing off as In The Same Boat
Re: Childless middle aged women the biggest whiners December 03, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,832 |
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In The Same Boat
I understand all that you state in your post. I am 48, single, never married, and while I have a good income/career, financially secure, etc. it isn't all that fulfulling. Netflix and my pets are my life savers.
It sounds like you really, really want to become a parent. Have you thought about becoming a foster parent and also getting certified for adoption of foster children in your state? A good friend of mine, female, a 52 year old government attorney, simply reached the conclusion "Mr. Right" wants "Miss 20 year Old" and she adopted a sibling pair of girls who had their parental rights terminated by the State. My friend is so glowingly happy; the girls are thriving. It is work, my frind says, and the children "did come with baggage" but she says becoming a foster parent and adopting was the best thing she ever did.
Your posted helped me too. I feel the same vexations that you also express in your post. I hope this helps, perhaps a bit.
Signing off as In The Same Boat
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blondie
The discussion on this site is supposed to be for middle aged NMNKs. It is incredibly depressing, with many of the posters being childLESS and crazy negative or just crazy. Also, some mawms couldn't help but post, despite being reminded that the discussion is only for those never married without kids.
http://lifetwo.com/production/node/20070927-midlife-and-always-single-women
Here is a nice one:
Submitted by Anonymous on August 29, 2010 - 8:14am.
"I found this when I googled "what do single women with no kids do after 40?" I can't come to any conclusions. I just failed at my 3rd IVF attempt, after 5 artificial insemination attempts. Back then I didn't think it was a fertility problem, just a lack of man problem. Now, 5 years later, still no man, still no kids, looking at 47 in 3 weeks, what is the purpose of life? I can't find one. Life is drudgery. Day after day, week after week, doing my time until what? My only dream in life was to get married and have children. But never in all my life did a man look into my eyes and say 'I want to be with you the rest of my life', why? I've been on the work-work out-sleep wheel for 25 years now. I'm in shape, I keep up with fashion, I'm social. But I guess now that there are indents in my face where it use to be plump, the magic is over. I don't want men 50, divorsed with grandchildren - what do I have in common with them? But men who haven't been married with no kids who want that, don't want me. So now the age old question - what is age? Why do I have to own up to that number that puts me immediately into a category that is unwanted by the family oriented male? Even more important, where in the world to meet one. I work from home now, so I no longer have that co-worker atmosphere.
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR SINGLE, NO CHILDREN AND OVER 40? What is worth living for anymore when your dream is dead?"
:kill I don't even know where to begin.
Re: Childless middle aged women the biggest whiners December 04, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,975 |
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In The Same Boat
I understand all that you state in your post. I am 48, single, never married, and while I have a good income/career, financially secure, etc. it isn't all that fulfulling. Netflix and my pets are my life savers.
It sounds like you really, really want to become a parent. Have you thought about becoming a foster parent and also getting certified for adoption of foster children in your state? A good friend of mine, female, a 52 year old government attorney, simply reached the conclusion "Mr. Right" wants "Miss 20 year Old" and she adopted a sibling pair of girls who had their parental rights terminated by the State.
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She wants to give a child a job before it's even conceived - once born, she expects this miniature and helpless human creature to make her life fulfilling and complete. What happens when she isn't glowing with motherly pride, or the kid is born retarded and extra needy because she had to have a kid at age 50? WHY is it that anytime a woman says she feels her life is empty, the only thing she feels will pull her out of her slump is a baby? Why would you want your sanity to be dependent on a completely dependent infant?
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Maybe all the money she spent on artificial insemination and IVF coulda gone to ADOPTING a child, if she wants one that badly. DUH.
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Re: Childless middle aged women the biggest whiners December 05, 2011 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 4,117 |
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nightshade
Sound advice spinstar, but this woman sounds a bit dense.
Can you imagine how whiny her kids would be? 'I'm borrrreeed, there's nothing to doooo mum'
I don't understand how she can think of nothing meaningful/pleasurable to do during her days. She has to have been doing something these past 47 odd years.
Go have a glass of wine in the bath and read a fucking book lady. It's impossible not to appreciate CFdom when peacfully dozing off in a bath.
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I don't think a kid she would have had would have fulfilled her either. It wouldn't have turned out to be the brilliant prodigy or sparkly princess she envisioned. Then she'd be on the internet whining about how her stupid kid ruined her life.
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raindancemaggie
Maybe all the money she spent on artificial insemination and IVF coulda gone to ADOPTING a child, if she wants one that badly. DUH.