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My singlehood is for many of the same reasons. I don't want anyone with kids. Period. If you have bred, then you are dead. No, it does not matter if they are "grown and gone." This rules out about 90+ percent in my age demographic.
My ideal relationship is someone who does not NEEEEEED to be with me 24/7. Maybe he works crazy hours, or travels for a job. He needs to have his own hobbies and friends, too. I don't want someone to glom on solely because he has no friends to hang with.
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If someone can't be happy on their own, I don't think they can be happy with another person either, but that's just me.
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I am single and I love it! The lack of sex can be annoying. But that is never more annoying than putting up with someone else's emotional problems. We all have issues, but I try not to make mine my partner's problems when I have a boyfriend. But most guys I've dated do not have the same self-awareness and compassion, so they feel free to let me deal with their baggage by disrespecting me or acting out the way a child would. I prefer the option of telling a guy to get lost quickly. This is why I am about 99% sure I will never get married.
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If someone can't be happy on their own, I don't think they can be happy with another person either, but that's just me.
I agree with this sentiment.
There are good ways to be single, and good ways to be in relationships. There are also bad ways to be either: desperately single, or in a relationship out of a fear of being alone. Confidence in being alone is necessary to be in a good relationship, or to be enjoyably single.
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If someone can't be happy on their own, I don't think they can be happy with another person either, but that's just me.
I agree with this sentiment.
There are good ways to be single, and good ways to be in relationships. There are also bad ways to be either: desperately single, or in a relationship out of a fear of being alone. Confidence in being alone is necessary to be in a good relationship, or to be enjoyably single.
There are some people who just can't be alone for some reason, and it's gotten worse in recent years with cellphones and texting keeping people connected more and more. I've always been able to spend time alone and entertain myself, and others have thought there was something wrong with me because of that. I still need my alone time regularly to keep myself sane.
I got started much later than most in relationships. My parents didn't believe in dating as a teenager in high school, so I didn't do it then, and didn't date in college either because I couldn't figure it out. I didn't start until my 20s and even then, couldn't figure it out. I just met someone online one day who shared a common hobby with me and at the time, only wanted to be friends, but then more came out of it, and we got married.
If I had to be on my own again, I probably could do it just fine without any problems.
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Yet it's been pounded into our heads through media, books, movies, etc. that there is a very Special Person (TM) just waiting for you out there to completely validate your very existence and that humans are social creatures designed to NEED company, too. It seems to indicate that remaining single is now no longer natural and it's REALLY driving me crazy, too!
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