I don't think this has anything to do with kids, but maybe it does, I just don't know any more. I do know that I dislike my Aunt quite a bit.
Lets just start with a little background. My mom's side of the family is very close, they get together yearly for a huge family party, and while my Mom and her brother were growing up, the extended family were getting together on an almost monthly basis. While I was growing up it had slowed to maybe every couple months. Anyway, my uncle (mom's brother), lets call him Carl, is a great guy, funny, caring, easy going, friendly, affectionate and a great cook. He's probably my favorite uncle. When he married his wife, we'll call her Ann, they were a fun couple, even after the first kid was born. Hell, they were still fun after they had triplets. That was 20+ years ago. Now the kids are growed up and not living at home (though a couple of the kids come home pretty much every other weekend), and she's grown to become a mean spirited, nasty, controlling bitch. She complains whenever Carl spends time with anyone who is not in the immediate family, including helping his frail 85 year old mother, who lives a block away, stay out of the retirement home. When my Mom has the time to drive the 3 hours to visit, she'll stop by her brother's house, and Ann won't even talk to her. She'll sit at the table with my Mom and Carl, and not even engage in the conversation. They don't hang out with any of their good friends any more, and this was the first year, ever, that Carl has missed the family reunion. The excuse given was "work", but considering that a. all his kids were home, even the one who was in the Navy, and b. they've known about this for a year, and c. he's never missed the reunion before, my guess (and my mom's and everyone else's) is that Ann blew such a fit that he figured it'd be easier to just stay home.
Anyway, I jus needed to vent, and say WTF?!