You were ALL right...

My friend married to the Thai woman, who refuses sex and is nasty to him and whose delinquent son lived off of him, complained about her again. They were on a fancy vacation on a cruise and she threatened to divorce him. Then...she recanted using PMS as an excuse but he still feels emotionally bruised.

I am over the "how can such a nice guy be married to a nasty b*tch" attitude. I told him that he needed to look at himself as to WHY he tolerates such behaviour. I also told him how he was a hypocrite -- feeling American women were not good enough to marry just because ONE did him wrong in a divorce...yet American women are good enough to f*ck since wifey refuses to f*ck HIM (yeah...I said THAT word and used the entire spelling because I was ticked).

Most of you mentioned this man has issues...and he does. Most people hate to hear the truth. I know I can be that way at times...but I think my friendship is o-v-e-r because I finally had it with the "poor me's" and told him EXACTLY what I think! I was being too freaking nice and enabling this person on an emotional level.

This wifey loves to talk about how his ex-wife was a "sl*t" and he goes along. I got REALLY irked. I told him that I had to do things for $$$ survival when I left home at a young age due to sexual abuse. He and his wifey loves to look down on that stuff but - at least - I am honest about who I am as a person. Yeah, the guy is a conservative but I cannot judge them all because of him. Ending friendships does s*ck but I am not about to remain in a dysfunctional friendship regardless of how platonic it is...

I'm sorry you had to end your friendship, India. That really sucks. On the upside, maybe he'll begin to think about what you've said, and he'll realize that this woman is a bad deal all- around. I hope so. Someday, he may thank you for giving him the wake- up call.

Thank-you for your kind words, Sprogless. I know I have been guilty of remaining in my own misery but I learned how to stop doing this so it does get to me when someone much older is willing to live in his own "crapulence"...I know...that is not a word! This man wants to "work it out" regardless of how nasty the wife is to him. But...another thing I have learned is how I cannot save another person.

it should be a word, hell if enough of us use it it will be .

i always give people 3 chances with me, they mess me about 3 times and they are gone.. once ok its possible its an accident twice and ok.. on the outskirts of probability, but 3 times.. and they are outta there..

well you also have a lot of friends on here, who know and understand a lot more than most

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