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CrabCake
It was exactly the opposite in my family, but that's because my dad is Japanese, which translates to SEXIST. Women don't count for shit in Japanese society. He treated my mom (Caucasian) like a servant, and he started treating me that way until I told him off a few months ago (haven't spoken since).
He never allowed my brother to do ANYTHING domestic because "that's women's work." Another rich one is that women are supposed to help their parents in their old age while the males go scot-free, and that's precisely my dad's mindset. :mad2
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I was thinking of you when I wrote this, John, as a clear exception to the norm. Of course unfairness based on sex is still sexism, no matter who gets the shit end of it, so you have my sympathy.
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Of course it does--my complaint is not "mothers are treating daughters harshly" but "mothers aren't treating their children equally regardless of sex." Everyone is done a disservice when sexism is perpetuated, even those who are appearing to get a better deal out of the inequality (although of course the person on the crapped on side of is getting the worst part of it).Quote
JohnDrake
Thank you very much. My point is that it works both ways, there is discrimination against men just like there is discrimation against women.
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Of course it does--my complaint is not "mothers are treating daughters harshly" but "mothers aren't treating their children equally regardless of sex." Everyone is done a disservice when sexism is perpetuated, even those who are appearing to get a better deal out of the inequality (although of course the person on the crapped on side of is getting the worst part of it).Quote
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Thank you very much. My point is that it works both ways, there is discrimination against men just like there is discrimation against women.
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Later on in life, my sister was a in a position where they couldn't do that for her anymore, and actually for the first time, had to deal with not having her way and she couldn't deal with it. I felt no sympathy for her considering what she was dealing with wasn't much different than what I had dealt with earlier on in life, and nobody got me what I wanted on a silver platter. I also felt no sympathy for the grief it caused my parents as I had actually always hoped something like this would happen, and my sister would pay.
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He never allowed my brother to do ANYTHING domestic because "that's women's work." Another rich one is that women are supposed to help their parents in their old age while the males go scot-free, and that's precisely my dad's mindset. :mad2
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The only thing suprising about this is that people are finally willing to admit it publically and out in the open, as well as acknowledge the damage it does to children. There can be gender differences, such as mom favoring daughters or dad favoring daughters or dad favoring sons. But when parents favor one child over the other(s) of course there are going to be problems issues about it. My situation's more in line with the articles.Quote
CrabCake
He never allowed my brother to do ANYTHING domestic because "that's women's work." Another rich one is that women are supposed to help their parents in their old age while the males go scot-free, and that's precisely my dad's mindset. :mad2
Yep, gotta love the irony of that. When my mother had mastectomy, I was expected to help, so I took off time for work, spent money on airfare only to be treated like shit by her. And told I'd get breast cancer too if I didn't lose more weight (had already lost 25 pounds since the last time I'd seen her). Bro? He was in prison and had a friend on the outside send flowers. He was the best, most thoughtful son ever. Meanwhile she was calling me Nurse Ratched when I asked her nurse questions about how to handle the care giving duties I had for her. Decided then & there if the hateful bitch ever needs any help ever again, the most I'd contribute would be money and maybe an annual trip to her nursing home while staying in a hotel to see how she was. After the cutoff shit she & bro pulled, they can forget the fuck about that. Let mama's darling little baby boy take care of her in her old age.
Interestingly one therapist commented on the scapegoating issue and said parents who pull this crap expect their least favorite to take care of them if they are ill and injured and often fuck them over from the grave by leaving them little, if anything and leaving the bulk of their assets to the favorite.