an old flame -- how would you handle? October 29, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 592 |
Re: an old flame -- how would you handle? October 29, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,308 |
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dreamlife
I was just contacted via email by a guy I haven't seen in about 6 years. I am thrilled! We had great times, but life took us in different directions. He wants to hang out and I am amenable to this. However, we all know a lot can happen in 6 years -- including OOOPS!
I don't want to waste my time hanging out with someone who may be a dad at this point. Should I tell him in my first note to him that I am down to hang out as long as he is childless? I see no reason for either of us to spend time getting to know each other again if I am going to have to exit stage left anyway if he has a kid.
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law1204
Dating IS networking. The more friends you make, the more friends of friends of friends you have access to, and one day when hanging out, you might run into someone who IS your speed.
Re: an old flame -- how would you handle? October 30, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 1,431 |
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Amethyst
a step that involves his checking to see if he has condoms tucked away in his bedside drawer for example.
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Re: an old flame -- how would you handle? October 30, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,099 |
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"My LAST ex stopped taking the pill without my knowing and got pregnant ON PURPOSE! She is with someone else now and I NEVER even see the kid!" OR the oh so typical, "The ex wife is abusive, cheater, drunk, and cruel to my kyds(fill in the blank) which is why I have custody. My heart is too big to allow my kids to live with her. I am such a goooodd person and am lucky that her mom keeps them most of the time and she only gets visitation"
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Re: an old flame -- how would you handle? November 01, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 5,275 |
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dreamlife
You guys wouldn't find out about the kids before going out? I mean, it's a deal breaker! I do appreciate your outlooks. I tend to be more brutally honest than full of finesse ... that can get me into socially awkward waters.
Re: an old flame -- how would you handle? November 01, 2010 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,206 |
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Unless you think you're somehow going to fall head over heels on a first date, let him buy you free drinks. If it turns out he does have or want kyds, you're out nothing and got a free dinner out of it, and maybe he has a CF friend he can hook you up with. Ya never know.
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