At least some honesty July 09, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
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blackpearl
Here is an article that popped up in my Yahoo news feed about a woman who touches the subject of what pregnancy can do to your body. It is refreshing to hear some honest facts after the whole bullshit i've been fed lately. I think i never heard so many lies in my life when in comes to pregnancy and childbirth especially if you are CF or at least if you don't have kids.
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cassia
I simply do not tolerate any breeder bingos about any aspect of childbirth from anyone, family or not.
Re: At least some honesty July 10, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
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yummynotmummy
Because everybody knows pregnancy and birth are shit!
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blackpearl
Everybody knows but breeders pretend that we don't know so they keep lying.
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Presto
Here's a tidbit I seriously have not heard from any other breeder anywhere about a possible consequence of childbirth...
My mom's belly skin isn't really skin any more. She blames it on my younger sister for "laying head forward" all the time, but I don't think that's it.
Her skin is this weird crinkly texture like plastic that has been crumpled and then laid flat and then crumpled some more and mostly laid flat. Seriously, it has ridges and everything.
I've only touched it once since I was old enough to remember, when I was 16 I accidentally got close enough reaching over her and her shirts rode up somehow, and it was a bizarre feeling and made a noise under my finger.
I think it's not entirely childbirth to blame as she's spent her entire life in those magic mormon undies(includes the shirt) and so I suspect this has done something weird to her skin.
Re: At least some honesty July 13, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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Techie
I overheard 2 older ladies talking today and one of the ladies was talking about her daughter giving birth. I cannot remember all of the terminology, but her daughter could not walk for like 4 months after giving birth. Something about some serious nerve damage (that had to hurt - if there is a word to describe it). She basically had to re-learn walking and does not walk like she used to. To this day her daughter cannot feel the fronts of her legs.
It always makes me wonder, all those men who push women into having bay-bees, are these men aware what they are asking? It's one thing if she wants to do it, but if she does not, let it be.
Re: At least some honesty July 14, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
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Techie
It always makes me wonder, all those men who push women into having bay-bees, are these men aware what they are asking? It's one thing if she wants to do it, but if she does not, let it be.
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blackpearl
Those men simply do not care. I recently joined a Finnish CF group on FB and there were lots of women who had to end relationships and even 10 year marriages because the guy caught rabies. They also tried to talk to these guys about pregancy and childbirth and the answers these women got were along the lines of "it's not that bad, all women do it, women are built for birth, get over it". As a guy you should be pretty darn insensitive to say that.
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blackpearl
I'm very pressured at the moment by my family and my mom just told me a while ago while being at the beach: "Look at all these women with kids, they are so in shape, you're just irrational and immature by being afraid to destroy your body." Nevermind that ALL women in my family got fat like whales after giving birth. My mom was 55kg before me and got to almost 90 after having me.
Re: At least some honesty July 14, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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blackpearl
In my case i'm the one under pressure and from my family. DH's family hasn't said anything about it or at least not yet. I also heard the same awful things like you but usually from my mom that no man will want me because all men want kids (so, yeah, exactly the other way round). Also she told me that i'm denying DH kids and i should leave him be with a normal woman because i'm the one who "poisoned" him. I never "poisoned" anyone, i was just honest from the beginning of relationship...if you agree stay, if you don't go. Then my mom told me that DH will leave me because he will want kids someday.
These things hurt me a lot and even if she didn't say them recently they still haunt me and sometimes cause me anxiety attacks. I've also been put under a lot of guilt recently and made me wonder more and more if i'm not wrong and exaggerating about being CF. It has been a hell of a summer until now and not because of the heat. And all people/friends breeding around doesn't make it easier at all.
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Techie
I too still at times get remnants of anxiety, cold sweat, no desire to sleep, lack of appetite, or just simple depression. Some people are affected by personal life more than others. It did many tricks to me. At times I have flashbacks when I hear about people getting harassed like I used to be. I too am reminded by certain family members that the reason I am still single is because I refused to breed. I used to argue with them but now I just say: "yeah, ok, you win, now what?"
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bell_flower
My ex told people that he left me because I wouldn't breed for him. (I'd had a tubal ligation prior to marriage.) Actually, I dumped him like a hot potato because he was cheating and pressuring me to have a kid, all at the same time. Funny, he neglected to tell our Church friends that part of the story.
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bell_flower
Some people just aren't suited for long-term relationships. They can't communicate; they don't know what they want and when they get it, they are still dissatisfied.
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bell_flower
I heard about 4-5 years ago that he married a younger, "rescue me" type with little kids.
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