"Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids, and Hopeful Wives"(Fundie Clergy Gives Advice):rolleyes2
Posted by kidlesskim
http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/lazy-husbands-hungry-kids-and-hopeful-wives/
A Christian Fundamentalist Asks Clergy for Advice
Is it normal for wives of Visionary men to face homelessness? My husband has not worked at all for 2 years. Our car died and there is no money to fix it. Our savings are almost gone. We are very behind on our rent, and my husband has made it clear that he does not want me trying to get any kind of government assistance. Nor does he want me asking him any more work-related questions of any kind. He wants to work from home and will not consider doing any kind of other work to make ends meet. I am really trying to keep my mouth shut but am struggling as of late. We will be facing eviction soon. Is "visionary" the new politically word for bum?
My parents live very close by and are aware that my husband is either sleeping or on the computer. My mom doesn’t say anything but often offers us food, which is well-received. I make a small amount of money working from home, but it is not enough to keep us afloat.Should I just quietly allow this to happen to us? I wouldn’t worry about it so much if our children were not so young. They are 4, 2, and 1. My husband is not a Christian, but I love him and think he is a good man, but he is making me crazy! If you have any advice on what I can do, please let me know. I am guessing she wants to stay within the guidelines of being a submissive wife and also the, "Let your husband be the head of household and lead" fundie philosophy. One thing I can't help but notice is the lazy mother fucker hasn't worked in TWO YEARS, yet she has created an additionall loaf since he last worked. I suppose she's against birth control as well.
The Answer from Above
Dear Sister,
Your problem is part of a growing epidemic that can’t be blamed on the economy. God tells us in I Timothy 5:8, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.â€In Micah 4:4, God reminds us, “But they shall sit every man under his vine and under his fig tree…â€If she had a fig tree at least they could have some fruit! If he's worse than an infidel, doesn't that mean she can rebel or something?
Clearly God meant for every man to work and provide for his household. So you and God are agreed, but that doesn’t mean your husband is going to jump up and get a job just because you tell him what God has said. So, what is a wife supposed to do? Basically nothing—nothing in word and nothing in deed. Just stay cheerful and loving. Your situation is better than most, for you have parents who, while not pushy, are willing to help. First, thank God for that wonderful mercy. Are they serious? What do they MEAN do nothing and stay cheerful and loving? What is WRONG with these people? How about lay down the law the fucker gets a job or get a job herself? :headbrick
It is certainly not your responsibility to keep him from eating, but neither is it your duty to bail him out of his laziness. Tell your mom how much you appreciate her generous offerings of food, but ask her to give foods that only the little ones will eat. Make the food plain and basic. Slip over once a day with the children but without your husband and eat heartily. When there is no money available, allow your own kitchen cabinets to become bare.
The best thing a woman can do is allow the situation to come to a head as quickly as possible. Don’t be an enabler by seeking further income. As long as he can keep the family together in any dwelling and provide food, continue to cheerfully follow his lead.So, she's supposed to sneak over to her mom's and mooch off them? HOW is she an "enabler" by going to work? That starve him out advice won't work or they wouldn't be on the verge of eviction as he obviously doesn't give a shit. So, that bullshit about as long as he keeps the famblee together in ANY dwelling or provides any food at all, which clearly he isn't, is ridiculous! Besides, she already said she has no transportation, so how is she going to sneak out and eat?
But what if a worst case scenario develops and you are evicted and find yourself homeless with no place to go but the streets or a homeless shelter? That puts your children in danger.If your husband’s actions put your children in real danger—not just discomfort or inconvenience—you should protect the children by respectfully disobeying your husband. To broaden the subject for our readers, the same would be true if a drunken husband commanded a wife and children to ride in the car while he drove. Respectfully disobey. Likewise, if a husband commands a wife to leave her children in the care of questionable babysitters, follow your maternal instincts. "Respectfully disobey" how, I wonder, since he just told her she couldn't get a job and he's told her to go to her mom's house and eat?
If your present circumstances deteriorate to the point of homelessness, I suggest that you quietly arrange ahead of time for your parents to invite you and the children, but not your husband, to come and live with them. Let him live in a homeless shelter until he can provide a home for you and the girls. If he insists that you live with him on the streets, tell him your children come first and you will take them to your parents, dreaming of the day when he has a place for the family to be united. Perhaps you could have your parents invite him for dinner and a conjugal visit once a week but not to stay the night. Sometimes a man needs to lose his comfort zone (computer and TV) to appreciate his responsibility to maintain that zone. Most women make the mistake of jumping in and providing, and then they become bitter toward their lazy husbands. Well, one thing he would NOT be getting is the "conjugal" visit and then leaving with a full belly. Yeah, THAT will show him! He won't go to a homeless shelter, he'll work just enough to house and feed himself, and likely will find a way to pay rent in order to keep his "comfort zone" intact, and basically her parents will be paying the rest of the famblee's way. In other words, redistribute the responsibility of herself and her kids by imposing on her parents for a "visit" that will likely last a lifetime if the cunt doesn't get rid of the bum and go to work!
I know I am going to get a lot of flak for this. If you have a better answer, I would like to hear it. We will publish worthy answers that vary from my own. I am glad God made me a husband and not a wife. Every woman deserves to be loved and cherished, and every child deserves to be protected and nurtured. Some husbands deserve to be whipped, but that, dear lady, is God’s job, not yours. It's SUCH bullshit that because she's a wife she isn't allowed to support herself and her own kids lest it make the man feel less manly or something. These people behave as if women can't do ANYTHING without the husband, unless it's horse shit like moving in with her parents until Tubby mends his ways, which is likely to be never. He's probably hoping the wife and kids will leave, which means legally she "abandoned" their home and left HIM, which will absolve him of all blame in the eyes of other people. "My wife left me and took the kids" will likely be his next line when he attempts to procure his next meal ticket.:BS
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If YOU are the "exception" to what I am saying, then why does my commentary bother you so much?
I don't hate your kids, I HATE YOU!
A Christian Fundamentalist Asks Clergy for Advice
Is it normal for wives of Visionary men to face homelessness? My husband has not worked at all for 2 years. Our car died and there is no money to fix it. Our savings are almost gone. We are very behind on our rent, and my husband has made it clear that he does not want me trying to get any kind of government assistance. Nor does he want me asking him any more work-related questions of any kind. He wants to work from home and will not consider doing any kind of other work to make ends meet. I am really trying to keep my mouth shut but am struggling as of late. We will be facing eviction soon. Is "visionary" the new politically word for bum?
My parents live very close by and are aware that my husband is either sleeping or on the computer. My mom doesn’t say anything but often offers us food, which is well-received. I make a small amount of money working from home, but it is not enough to keep us afloat.Should I just quietly allow this to happen to us? I wouldn’t worry about it so much if our children were not so young. They are 4, 2, and 1. My husband is not a Christian, but I love him and think he is a good man, but he is making me crazy! If you have any advice on what I can do, please let me know. I am guessing she wants to stay within the guidelines of being a submissive wife and also the, "Let your husband be the head of household and lead" fundie philosophy. One thing I can't help but notice is the lazy mother fucker hasn't worked in TWO YEARS, yet she has created an additionall loaf since he last worked. I suppose she's against birth control as well.
The Answer from Above
Dear Sister,
Your problem is part of a growing epidemic that can’t be blamed on the economy. God tells us in I Timothy 5:8, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.â€In Micah 4:4, God reminds us, “But they shall sit every man under his vine and under his fig tree…â€If she had a fig tree at least they could have some fruit! If he's worse than an infidel, doesn't that mean she can rebel or something?
Clearly God meant for every man to work and provide for his household. So you and God are agreed, but that doesn’t mean your husband is going to jump up and get a job just because you tell him what God has said. So, what is a wife supposed to do? Basically nothing—nothing in word and nothing in deed. Just stay cheerful and loving. Your situation is better than most, for you have parents who, while not pushy, are willing to help. First, thank God for that wonderful mercy. Are they serious? What do they MEAN do nothing and stay cheerful and loving? What is WRONG with these people? How about lay down the law the fucker gets a job or get a job herself? :headbrick
It is certainly not your responsibility to keep him from eating, but neither is it your duty to bail him out of his laziness. Tell your mom how much you appreciate her generous offerings of food, but ask her to give foods that only the little ones will eat. Make the food plain and basic. Slip over once a day with the children but without your husband and eat heartily. When there is no money available, allow your own kitchen cabinets to become bare.
The best thing a woman can do is allow the situation to come to a head as quickly as possible. Don’t be an enabler by seeking further income. As long as he can keep the family together in any dwelling and provide food, continue to cheerfully follow his lead.So, she's supposed to sneak over to her mom's and mooch off them? HOW is she an "enabler" by going to work? That starve him out advice won't work or they wouldn't be on the verge of eviction as he obviously doesn't give a shit. So, that bullshit about as long as he keeps the famblee together in ANY dwelling or provides any food at all, which clearly he isn't, is ridiculous! Besides, she already said she has no transportation, so how is she going to sneak out and eat?
But what if a worst case scenario develops and you are evicted and find yourself homeless with no place to go but the streets or a homeless shelter? That puts your children in danger.If your husband’s actions put your children in real danger—not just discomfort or inconvenience—you should protect the children by respectfully disobeying your husband. To broaden the subject for our readers, the same would be true if a drunken husband commanded a wife and children to ride in the car while he drove. Respectfully disobey. Likewise, if a husband commands a wife to leave her children in the care of questionable babysitters, follow your maternal instincts. "Respectfully disobey" how, I wonder, since he just told her she couldn't get a job and he's told her to go to her mom's house and eat?
If your present circumstances deteriorate to the point of homelessness, I suggest that you quietly arrange ahead of time for your parents to invite you and the children, but not your husband, to come and live with them. Let him live in a homeless shelter until he can provide a home for you and the girls. If he insists that you live with him on the streets, tell him your children come first and you will take them to your parents, dreaming of the day when he has a place for the family to be united. Perhaps you could have your parents invite him for dinner and a conjugal visit once a week but not to stay the night. Sometimes a man needs to lose his comfort zone (computer and TV) to appreciate his responsibility to maintain that zone. Most women make the mistake of jumping in and providing, and then they become bitter toward their lazy husbands. Well, one thing he would NOT be getting is the "conjugal" visit and then leaving with a full belly. Yeah, THAT will show him! He won't go to a homeless shelter, he'll work just enough to house and feed himself, and likely will find a way to pay rent in order to keep his "comfort zone" intact, and basically her parents will be paying the rest of the famblee's way. In other words, redistribute the responsibility of herself and her kids by imposing on her parents for a "visit" that will likely last a lifetime if the cunt doesn't get rid of the bum and go to work!
I know I am going to get a lot of flak for this. If you have a better answer, I would like to hear it. We will publish worthy answers that vary from my own. I am glad God made me a husband and not a wife. Every woman deserves to be loved and cherished, and every child deserves to be protected and nurtured. Some husbands deserve to be whipped, but that, dear lady, is God’s job, not yours. It's SUCH bullshit that because she's a wife she isn't allowed to support herself and her own kids lest it make the man feel less manly or something. These people behave as if women can't do ANYTHING without the husband, unless it's horse shit like moving in with her parents until Tubby mends his ways, which is likely to be never. He's probably hoping the wife and kids will leave, which means legally she "abandoned" their home and left HIM, which will absolve him of all blame in the eyes of other people. "My wife left me and took the kids" will likely be his next line when he attempts to procure his next meal ticket.:BS
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If YOU are the "exception" to what I am saying, then why does my commentary bother you so much?
I don't hate your kids, I HATE YOU!
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Re: "Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids, and Hopeful Wives"(Fundie Clergy Gives Advice):rolleyes2 July 23, 2014 |
That story almost reads like fiction; hell, it might even make a good screenplay! 
I have no doubt it's real though.
One wonders what kind of "visionary" the wife is talking about. Like Tesla? Probably not, and there just isn't a lot of demand for visionaries unless they actually have good ideas and/or the means to make them happen. Duh probably just envisions people giving him money someday, and the Moo and kyds are left waiting for the Big Break to happen. This is a mess of epic-proportions. The "obedience" crap is really the problem here. Moo owes no obedience to her loser husband. He isn't doing what he should, so why should Moo follow his directives? I'll bet Pastor Fundie is glad he's a husband and not a wife. Men call the shots in Fundie Christianity, and the women had better like it or STFU. And ix-nay on the "conjugal" visits. Normally I think witholding sex is a bad idea, but in this case Moo would be a fool to keep screwing Duh so long as he's a Gentleman of Leisure.
It takes a child to raze a village.
I have no doubt it's real though.One wonders what kind of "visionary" the wife is talking about. Like Tesla? Probably not, and there just isn't a lot of demand for visionaries unless they actually have good ideas and/or the means to make them happen. Duh probably just envisions people giving him money someday, and the Moo and kyds are left waiting for the Big Break to happen. This is a mess of epic-proportions. The "obedience" crap is really the problem here. Moo owes no obedience to her loser husband. He isn't doing what he should, so why should Moo follow his directives? I'll bet Pastor Fundie is glad he's a husband and not a wife. Men call the shots in Fundie Christianity, and the women had better like it or STFU. And ix-nay on the "conjugal" visits. Normally I think witholding sex is a bad idea, but in this case Moo would be a fool to keep screwing Duh so long as he's a Gentleman of Leisure.
It takes a child to raze a village.
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Re: "Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids, and Hopeful Wives"(Fundie Clergy Gives Advice):rolleyes2 July 23, 2014 |
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I think I've read this story before, could you maybe have posted it in the past? Either that or this wtfuckery is pretty damn pervasive.
I'm surprised she didn't hear something like this: It is your own damn fault for marrying a heathen, so drop your kids off with your parents and go join him in living on the streets in penance for letting lust choose your husband.
It sounded familiar to me too, but so many stories like these are so similar and commonplace I can't be certain!
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If YOU are the "exception" to what I am saying, then why does my commentary bother you so much?
I don't hate your kids, I HATE YOU!
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Re: "Lazy Husbands, Hungry Kids, and Hopeful Wives"(Fundie Clergy Gives Advice):rolleyes2 July 23, 2014 |
Catharsist, you said it better then I 
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