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The one that made me mad was the garbage creature who wrote, "There's a special corner of hell reserved for people like your girlfriend" in response to a poster who wrote that his GF sized down to a smaller house just to avoid having to let her mother move in with her. You know what? If there is a hell (which I highly doubt) , there's a special place reserved for people who torment and abuse their own children when the children are too young and helpless to defend themselves. I think it is quite possible the poster's GF was one of those children, and if so, she has every right to protect herself from emotional distress from being around her tormenter , even if the tormenter can no longer physically abuse her.
I loathe those "But she's yourmuuuuhhhtherrr !" types, in RL and online. People who think "family" trumps everything, regardless of past history, no matter how abusive they were, no matter how much distress it causes to be around them. "Family" as a doormat-creation factory...UGH.
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Hate to say it but.... I am sometimes happy my parents died early. Childfree and parentfree in your 60's has tons of benefits.
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Hate to say it but.... I am sometimes happy my parents died early. Childfree and parentfree in your 60's has tons of benefits.
I'm at the stage (mid-50s) of being sort of horrified at how my parents completely effed up their lives. They weren't good parents; had kids because that's what people born in the 30s were expected to do. My father (deceased) spent a big chunk of his life working to provide for a family that probably brought him little joy, enduring for almost three decades a wife who increasingly became a violent harridan because of mental issues. All that to see us kids flee the coop and put as much distance from both of them because of their crappy parenting. Our mother is still alive, but her death will bring a relief to all of us.
What an awful life for both of them.
I am so glad that I made (or was oriented toward) a path that I clearly knew would be the best kind of life for me.
I don't have much admiration for the couple in the article. Their life circumstances and clear attitude pointed them toward a childfree life, but they still drank the Kool-Aid. What if the fetus hadn't failed? What kind of parents would they have become? Not very good ones, from my speculation. I think luck veered toward the fetus in causing it to fail. It would likely have become a child born to parents who probably would have been hard-pressed to not show resentment toward its existence.
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I strongly agree that IVF needs to be strictly regulated. Counciling, control over just how many of these 'frankenloaves' they are allowed to carry to term, more information on the complications of shooting yourself up with hormones, whatever it takes... it needs to be regulated. Remember Vegitina? She was their natural loaf.. but that woman had 4 older kids IVF and now a younger set of twins IVF... AND she has 7 more frozen sets of eggs she wants to use up before she's 45. Umm... she's 40 now. A whole frankin fambly going there. Just wrong.
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Hate to say it but.... I am sometimes happy my parents died early. Childfree and parentfree in your 60's has tons of benefits.
I'm at the stage (mid-50s) of being sort of horrified at how my parents completely effed up their lives. They weren't good parents; had kids because that's what people born in the 30s were expected to do. My father (deceased) spent a big chunk of his life working to provide for a family that probably brought him little joy, enduring for almost three decades a wife who increasingly became a violent harridan because of mental issues. All that to see us kids flee the coop and put as much distance from both of them because of their crappy parenting. Our mother is still alive, but her death will bring a relief to all of us.
What an awful life for both of them.
I am so glad that I made (or was oriented toward) a path that I clearly knew would be the best kind of life for me.
I don't have much admiration for the couple in the article. Their life circumstances and clear attitude pointed them toward a childfree life, but they still drank the Kool-Aid. What if the fetus hadn't failed? What kind of parents would they have become? Not very good ones, from my speculation. I think luck veered toward the fetus in causing it to fail. It would likely have become a child born to parents who probably would have been hard-pressed to not show resentment toward its existence.
Count me in that category. My parents were born during the 1930's too, lost them in my late 30's - and as much as I hate to say this, I probably would not have been able to accomplish as much with my life if they were still around. The fact I make more money than my father did at my age would NOT have gone over well with them. There's so much more I could tell but I don't wanna write a book here...