SAHM as a Feminist Choice October 03, 2014 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 149 |
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seamstress
I'd much rather a woman be valued as a person instead of their reproductive ability. I feel like reducing a woman to a mother is just going backwards and making it easier for people to decide things for women, eg "You can't do that because you are going to be a mothurrrrrr one day." or any of the bullshit bingos that are aimed at the childfree. I'm pretty sure that mothers are rather highly valued at the moment.
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yummynotmummy
Being a SAHM is not an option for all women, lets face it. Not all women can afford it. Some people prefer to divide the labour in their home that way, and it does work for some people. However, I find those it does tend to work for don't always have terribly conventional values, have different views around money (ie are less materialistic) and always keep half an eye on when they might need to return to the workforce, ie doing volunteer work, learning/studying, participating in the community, etc.
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starbelly
By being a SAHM, the woman is choosing not to exercise her rights. Those opportunities don't go away, but if you are on the bench your ability to play the game is eroded, which DOES take away your power. The same thing would happen to a SAHDuh.
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starbelly
The idea is that SAHMoos are contributing and utilizing their opportunity to participate by raising up the kyds, but it's not really the same thing, is it? Moos who work are also raising up their kyds. I don't think it's a feminist choice to stay at home, that's the DEFAULT setting. The feminist CHOICE is to participate! Women will always be valued as loaf incubators, but true feminism values women for all the other contributions we can make to society.
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randomcfchick
Lately I have noticed some odd logic about defining feminism and choices. The definition these days seems to be that if it's a decision a woman freely makes of her own will, it's a feminist choice. To me that seems like a complete and utter failure in logic. It seems that society just laps that stuff up, though. I've gotten into it with other women about that very thing.
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learnernotlurker
Leslie Bennetts, in her book The Feminine Mistake, made it clear for all time that SAHMhood is as UN-feminist a choice as you can make (and as she divorced shortly after publishing the book, she is ironic proof that even egalitarian marriages can fail).
By the way, I'm a retired book editor for several university presses, and I purred when I read your lucid, jargon-free prose. Please honor us with more.
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yummynotmummy
I kinda think, if it's a private arrangement and doesn't involve somebody other than the couple concerned supporting that choice to stay home and raise brats, then they are free to divide labour in their family any way they wish. Some couples both work part time and share the childcare. Some men stay home, like my dad did - he was doing a PhD anyway so it made sense. But nobody got, or asked for, any handouts.
That said, just because a woman makes a choice, not every choice made by a woman is a feminist one. That's a common misinterpretation of feminism these days.
There is nothing at all feminist about choosing to become a welfare moo. Nothing whatsoever.
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Dorisan
The SAH arrangement is so tenuous, and as others have noted, a surrender of power, that I can hardly wrap my brain around it. Some of us here are old enough to have been raised by a mother who did that simply as a matter of social expectation. I know very few of my contemporaries who can say that it worked out well for their mother in her later years. I don't know how theses moos think it will be different for them if they follow the same pattern. They might yammer that it is a feminist stance, but that won't accord them any protection in case of divorce or the early death of their partner.
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yummynotmummy
That said, just because a woman makes a choice, not every choice made by a woman is a feminist one. That's a common misinterpretation of feminism these days.
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mistress rotwang
Er no. The only way that I am not bothered by a woman staying home is if she is Eleanor Roosevelt or something like that because then she hss to do a lot of work to help her husband in terms of making his job doable.
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