I was gonna include this in my (still in progress) Commode compilation, but it just seems so messed up that I felt it needed its own topic. My thoughts are in red.
Summary: 12-year-old girl refuses to shit and Moo obsesses over it.
http://www.mothering.com/forum/17516-child-teen-health/1459514-encopresis-how-do-i-get-my-12-year-old-daughter-board-her-treatment-plan.html
My 12-year-old daughter has been dealing with retentive encopresis for about 5 years now. She avoids going to the toilet at all. This results in soiling and the production of an amazing huge toilet-clogging log-like object every week. We have been trying for years to get her to talk about this, but she absolutely refuses to talk about this despite what her pedi, GI doc and psychologist tried to do or suggested we do to get her to talk about it. When we do talk about it, the response is ALWAYS "I don't know".
Well, could it be the girl doesn't want to discuss her toilet habits with her mother? She's almost a teenager, and she's probably menstruating by now. She's a young lady and it sounds to me like maybe she had a bout of bad constipation at one point and her mother is overprotective and controlling and just will not let the issue go.We have tried so many treatment plans over the years, specifically tailored to her, such as enemas, scheduled toilet sittings, she just kept holding it in.
I'd hold it in too if I was under the pressure of being expected to have a scheduled toilet sitting. I couldn't go on cue with an audience standing within earshot listening through the door for turds to fall in the toilet! Right before school ended last year, her pedi and the GI doc laid out a clear treatment plan of laxatives, regular bathroom visits, and a rewards program. She did take the Miralax daily as directed, but the problem is every time after she took it, she kept holding it in, so the Miralax NEVER worked.
I admire this girl's dedication. Not many people can fight the effects of a laxative. I tried telling her "if you poop, I will buy you XYZ" (something she REALLY wants)" you can do XYZ only after you poop" and not letting her do things "you can't do XYZ until you poop" and XYZ would be something she LOVES to do. I wouldn't let her leave the toilet until she pooped, for hours no luck.
Did Moo ever consider that maybe her daughter is embarrassed and doesn't want to be treated like a toddler with a rewards system and ultimatums? I'd probably hold it just to spite Moo for talking to me like I was a tard.When school started, her pedi and GI doc came up with a new treatment plan involving fiber intake enemas. We TRIED to involve her, the response is again "I don't know." She refuses to take the enema and when she does she just holds it in.
Again, talk about determination! So if she doesn't release the enema fluid, where does it go? Does she hold it in indefinitely? I asked her why she doesn't want to poop. Does it hurt? Does it scare you to poop? Does it feel good to hold it in? The answer is always "I don't know" and you can question her for hours and still get no answers.
Because she doesn't want to talk about her bowel habits with her mother for fuck's sake. No kid that age wants to discuss poop or periods or sexual urges with their parents. We have ruled out all physiological issues for not popping. We explained to her the digestive process, she knows why she needs to poop daily. 2 years ago we tried ucanpooptoo, didn't help. She does her own laundry.
I'm not sure why the girl quit using the toilet properly, but it sounds to me like she's embarrassed and is not comfortable with her mother obsessing over what does and does not come out of her ass and dragging her to countless doctors to be examined and medicated. Plus, I imagine long-term use of laxatives and enemas and continuing to not shit will have adverse effects on the girl's health.
OR I think there may actually be a psychological issue at hand that Moo is conveniently leaving out. According to some stuff I read while writing this topic, retentive encopresis can be caused by something like a bout of painful constipation that scares the kid, being frightened by the sound of the toilet flushing, stress... or repeated sexual abuse. I saw no mention of a Duh or fuckbuddy in the story, but could the girl have been abused five years ago? Possibly anally, and that's why she refuses to go, refuses to cooperate with treatment and responds to everything with
"I don't know?" I have a sinking feeling this girl has been abused.