Dear Prudence: BIL gifted us with pictures of our newborn. We want the rest. January 01, 2015 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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Dear Prudence,
Recently my husband and I had a beautiful baby girl. As a gift to us, my (part-time) photographer brother-in-law offered to do a newborn session. I was thrilled, as money is tight and we would never have splurged on this ourselves. He told us we could have a couple of prints and anything else would be at his cost. He had taken about 20 amazing photos of our daughter, but we picked out a few for prints. I asked if we could have the rest of the photos on a CD. He told me he normally sells that for $1,000 to his clients. I was floored. He reiterated he would order us any prints we wanted (at cost). My husband’s family sees nothing wrong with this. But it burns me up to know there are some beautiful memories of my daughter that will just sit, unviewed, on a relative’s hard drive. The more I think about it, the madder I get. Am I crazy?
—Confused
Dear Confused,
Sure, he could have been more generous, but he was generous enough that you got a bunch of professional photos of you baby. As long as the cost of prints is reasonable, you can get more. The real problem is the amount of time you’re spending thinking about this. Your brother-in-law may be a talented photographer, but these days anyone with a cellphone can take a creditable photo of an offspring. So start clicking. Decide to take a picture of your daughter every day, and then create one of those time-lapse photo streams of your little girl growing up. When your in-laws clamor for a copy, give it to them. Focus on the beautiful baby in front of you, not a few photos of her on a hard drive.
—Prudie
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Re: Dear Prudence: BIL gifted us with pictures of our newborn. We want the rest. January 02, 2015 |
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yurble
Money is too tight to pay for prints and you go and have a baby? BIL made a big mistake in giving a gift at all. When you give a breeder a hand, they'll just whine about not getting your arm as well.
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Re: Dear Prudence: BIL gifted us with pictures of our newborn. We want the rest. January 03, 2015 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 464 |
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Presto
Yup, agree if the money for prints at cost is a limiting factor, ya ain't ready to bring another person into yer marriage!
They are so entitled these days!
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