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stillwaters
My ILs are a pain in the ass, and I don't have anything to do with them. I married my husband to be married to my husband, not to kiss up to his parents. I honestly reached a point where I didn't care if my husband divorced me over it - I wasn't having anything more to do with them. Now my husband doesn't even bother to visit them - I think my taking a stand opened his eyes to how critical and controlling they are.
This site helped me immensely: http://community.motherinlawstories.com/forum/forum.php
Let your husband visit the nasty wench alone and don't give her anymore space in your head.
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yummynotmummy
Well, we have to go down and see them tomorrow and I've said OH can go on his own, I'm done with her shit. He has tried to get her to see I am not being nasty, that I'm the same person I was, its just that she sees me differently because we "came out" as CF last year. But she is convinced - a CF woman cannot be a nice person. The two don't go together. Her narrative is pretty much what addiea raine suggested - "my poor innocent boy in the clutches of this awful woman"
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Dorisan
I wouldn't put it past her to make you Public Enemy #1 and try to enlist family members as flying monkees to divide you two.
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evilchildlessbitch
He needs to tell her he will not be breeding and the issue is off the table
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mrs. chinaski
You cannot do anything to improve the relationship. Give it up, save your energy/time/money for something else. She will never like you. You will always try to help her / buy her something nice etc. She will only criticise you for your efforts. You'll end up frustrated and unhappy.
Been there, done that.
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yummynotmummy
I suppose I feel upset because she used to like me and I feel like I've lost something - but I do need to come to terms with the fact that's no longer the case, and that my lack of breeding intentions has completely changed how she sees me as a person. She wouldn't be the first person I've had to cut off for that reason, I've done it with a friend or two before who became breederific and started bingoing/judging me for my choices, but it's easier to get rid of a friend than a MIL!
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yummynotmummy
What she doesn't realise is that over the years I've encouraged OH to engage more with her, be nicer to her and cut her some slack (he was angry with her for a long time over various things, leaving his dad etc, but I tried to get him to understand that her staying in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the kids wasn't a realistic or fair expectation). She wouldn't see half as much of him if it wasn't for me, so good luck to her now she's pissed me off - I won't be encouraging him to see her or communicate with her any more, he can choose to see/speak to her as much or as little as he wants.
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yummynotmummy
MIL has taken to now finding fault with me in other ways (because OH won't listen to any more whinging about not breeding). So you're right, he does need to start getting tough on the sly nasty comments she's making.
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Dorisan
Once she knows that your OH won't back down; that you are irrevocably in his life and he doesn't want to listen to her yapping; she'll turn sickly sweet and totally boggled at what she might have done to hurt your feelings. Expect a non-apology ("I don't know what I could have done to make you unhappy, but I'm very sorry you feel that way"), protests of affection, even gifts.
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peace-n-quiet
Even before I officially became childfree, I loved the idea of marrying an orphan. If there's one thing worse than breeders, it is old breeders. They really think they are entitled to make people think and live as they say.
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peace-n-quiet
Even before I officially became childfree, I loved the idea of marrying an orphan. If there's one thing worse than breeders, it is old breeders. They really think they are entitled to make people think and live as they say.
I recall my mother saying: "marry an orphan", "found on a doorstep".