moo became an adult by having a baby at 19, unlike her childfree friends

The recent post about losing friends to moohood inspired my search, and I found this little gem http://www.popsugar.com/moms/Hello-Baby-Goodbye-Friend-When-Motherhood-Ends-Friendships-27330580

They do change, alright. They lose neurons, become monosyllabic, regress into a childhood state of fear, anxiety, and an illogical need for validation from other adults. They spend an inordinate amount of time dealing with, talking about, and gazing into body fluids (and chunks), either theirs or their loaves'. They become automatons to whom you can sell bottles full of air when you preface an ad with 'As a mom....'

I could go on but it's not necessary.

I've got news for Moo-at-19; she's likely never going to achieve adulthood.

growing up dosent magically happen when you sluce a loaf, it happens when you figure out what you want out of life, when you start achiving bigger goals, or just learning to accept who you are, what you really like and expressing it.

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barbur
I've got news for Moo-at-19; she's likely never going to achieve adulthood.

She zoomed from "young adult" to "your life is so freaking over."

I view early parenthood as being the other side of the spectrum from a geezer breeder. Have a kid in your 40s, you're going to have a teenager when you are almost ready to collect Medicare. Have a kid at 19, you'll have another adult in the house before you even hit middle age. There's a 'way to late' age to have a kid, but a 'too damned early' age as well.

My mum had me at that age and guess what was drummed into me throughout my childhood? That's right, don't have a f*king child at 19!

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My mum had me at that age and guess what was drummed into me throughout my childhood? That's right, don't have a f*king child at 19!

My older sister had her first at about that age. I've heard her a number of times lecturing her daughter to wait until at least 25 or 26. "Get some living under your belt," is her advice. But then Older Sister went and had another kid (her daughter) when she was in her late 30s. I think she was pressured into that, though. The only blood grandchild in the family died and I'm quite sure that Older Sister, as the only fertile age female in the family, was pressured into creating a replacement. Worse was that a few years after having her daughter, my nephew (OS first child) became a father. So Sister was a mother to a toddler and a grandmother, all at once. I don't think she's ever had a break from responsibilities or expectations of help or babysitting.

So glad that is not my life d

SiL had oldest nephew at 15 and middle nephew at 17, she pounded in their head to be like their Uncle Takeo and don't get a girl pregnant in high school. She graduated mainly because MiL provided free daycare while she was at school. SiL is a bartender in a casino and makes pretty good money by the standards of her area. The 30+ years between shit! I'm pregnant and relative financial stability were pretty damn rough.

Again, talk to social workers. They see these fat bellied teen sows and they sway their swollen turgid guts around and parade as if they went to the moon. Heroines, they think.
and the social workers will tell you. They see the same sows in about 6 years, when they are about 23, 24 and have 3 or so turds clinging to them and they are desperate and sick to death and tired of their crotch turds.
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CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.

The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.

Not exactly.

What really happens is the life of the 19 year-old Moo ends and she has to live for her kid.

There is nothing "grown up" about that at all.

Then why keep having kids if they are so unhappy?! A condom, if used correctly, is over 90 percent effective, and a box of them can be bought for what, 5-10 bucks?

I can maybe understand not being able to afford other options. My old gynecologist wanted me to pay over 100 dollars for my annual exam and then my Depo shot would have cost another 80-90 dollars or so every 3 months.

IUDs are hundreds of smackers from my understanding as well and would have been hard on me anyway because I haven't given birth -- or so I was told.

A box of rubbers, though? They cannot afford 5-10 dollars every week or how ever often they get busy?

Planned parenthood gives free condoms and sometimes free birth control

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My older sister had her first at about that age. I've heard her a number of times lecturing her daughter to wait until at least 25 or 26. "Get some living under your belt," is her advice. But then Older Sister went and had another kid (her daughter) when she was in her late 30s

This is what my parents ended up doing, they had my brother in their mid thirties. Mine & my sister's first response to the news was "you have to be kidding?! Right? Right?....". To be fair to my folks it didn't make too much of a difference to family life but I still think they were nuts to have a kid when their other two were nearly at the independant stage.

That will never, ever be me