I don't ever recall my older half-brother being nice to me even though he was much older than me. When I was a toddler he'd scream if I came near his room or his stuff. If he offered to play a game with me he'd make up his own rules so I'd lose then when I realized what he was doing and be upset he'd call me names. Going on trips to see relatives was absolute hell because he'd spend the entire time trying to make me miserable because we were in close quarters. He also said a bunch of untrue and cruel things about me to kids that were younger than him and looked up to him. These kids hated me before they met me and were mean to me from the start. I didn't understand the deliberate manipulation with the game stuff until I was around 10 or so. Didn't understand why the kids hated me until I was much older. Somewhere around the age of 8 I realized he was going to hate me no matter what. I finally stopped listening to their hyperbole that he was wonderful just because he was my brother and stopped putting out the efforts to be kind that my parents told me would work if I just kept trying. I no longer fell for their guilt trips about him either. He was just always an asshole.
He didn't follow the rules of the house so my parents didn't pay for his college. I did follow the same exact rules and my college was paid for. Rules were the same for all of us and were told to us from the time we were little kids. He likes to pretend that means I was favored although I recall quite clearly him moving out at 17 and my parents stating if he leaves per the arrangement then he can pay for his own school. Before he moved out he kept doing really stupid stuff (I was a kid and even I knew he was doing stupid stuff) and couldn't figure out consequences.
He has whined to my parents about having to pay for his school since mine was paid for and continued to whine about this up until the last time I saw him when he was in his early 40's. My father has mentioned repeatedly that bro is very jealous of me. The paying for college thing is just an excuse and if neither of us had school paid for he'd still find a reason to whine about the unfairness of everything in his life. It is good I haven't seen him in years because if he started that whining about college I no longer have the patience to tolerate it. He is also the only relative I have who insists on bingoing me about kids every time he sees me.
Since I've become an adult he admitted to my parents he killed my pet rabbit, threw my cat into a yard with a German Shepherd, and opened the fence for my dog to run away. He admitted this at about the age of 40, so you can just guess what kind of sense this man has. My family thought it was the neighborhood boys, as they did these kinds of things. I have no doubt the reason he admitted to this was he knew my parents would mention it to me and he has to get his punches in one way or another.
He reminds me of the character Kevin in "Let's talk about Kevin" but with the mind of a half-wit - minus about 60 IQ points and the mental capacity to plan. He also thinks that everyone owes him something and one day he will just "become" magically wealthy and not through hard work, the lottery or an inheritance either. He'll just own the right business or have the right opportunity fall in his lap. Righhht.
Even as a little kid I had the sense to be kind to animals despite witnessing animal abuse regularly.
I'm not sure if he has a mental issue but I'm confident he has a very low IQ. I'm beginning to think all his behavior is related to a low IQ and that he has a mental age of 10 or experienced an arrested development at around that age. Also lacks the ability to rationalize, well, anything!
I do get the warm and fuzzies thinking of his older half-brother, who has about the same mental capacity according to reports from my family. That one inherited between 7 and 8 million dollars a few years ago, guarantee old bro is writhing with irrational jealousy. He was mean and nasty to my parents until he figured out there may be a small inheritance then his behavior radically changed. LOL.
The sad part is that he could very well be the typical brother. Can you imagine having to deal with children who act like that? Growing up around kids who were mostly mean, selfish, greedy little sociopathic assholes was more than enough to persuade me from wanting any.