Wow, nothing like a little sex to help you cope with the deaths of both your grandparents. I've read shit like this before - isn't it great how some people are never upset enough to not fuck?
This guy only cares about one person: himself. I'm sure it's no secret to him about his wife's history of sexual abuse and miscarriages, but he doesn't care enough to move at her pace or even consider the fact that she's not sure if she even wants kids (now or ever). This is a woman who has had her trust betrayed by whoever abused her (assuming it was someone she knew and not a random stranger), and had trust in her body betrayed by having a miscarriage during what I have to assume was a wanted pregnancy (or maybe it was unwanted and clump loss was just painful and shitty). Then she gets punched in the gut a third time by this guy she thought she could trust. This line:
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My husband has desperately been wanting to have a child
... says it all.
HE desperately wants a brat, and fuck what she wants. Why should he care? He's not the one who's gonna get knocked up. All he has to do is fuck her bareback, grunt and blow a load. His work's done for nearly a year, and may be done entirely depending on how much of an involved father he is. Judging by his behavior, I'm going to venture a guess that he won't lift a finger to raise his kid because that's the woman's job.
These two have only been married for three months, no idea how long they were dating before getting married. My guess is the wanna-Duh baby rabies started on their wedding night. Y'know, secure the bitch with a ring and then start demanding babies so she has to decide between a divorce or breeding. This woman was smart to stop fucking him, but she's stupid for staying with him. If he's willing to betray her trust like this, then he won't be afraid to do it in other ways too. If she wants to keep banging him, she needs to invest in contraception that he cannot fuck with like an implant, IUD, Depo shot, something that once it's there, it can't be tampered with. Not pills - it's easy for wanna-Duh to just take them and throw them out, but not so much with Implanon.
Frankly, I think the damage he's done to the marriage is unforgivable and irreversible. Don't even bother with counseling if the man can't even take his wife's feelings (and past) into consideration when he starts trying to knock her up in secret. This sounds like two people who did not have the kid talk prior to marriage (they probably got married quickly), and now it's coming out that they might want different things at different times.