Why parents regret having kids August 07, 2016 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,992 |
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What's that thing when you fall in love with your captor? Stockholm syndrome? That's what it sounds like when people say "oh you'll love it because it's your own!!!" No, I just don't think I should have kids. I've met my nieces, they are spawn.
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What's that thing when you fall in love with your captor? Stockholm syndrome? That's what it sounds like when people say "oh you'll love it because it's your own!!!" No, I just don't think I should have kids. I've met my nieces, they are spawn.
Now that I think about it, being a parent does sound like Stockholm syndrome. So, so many parents "love" their kids out of circumstance than out of genuine emotion, and the parents are sort of held captive by their kids. That's kinda scary to think about.
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What's that thing when you fall in love with your captor? Stockholm syndrome? That's what it sounds like when people say "oh you'll love it because it's your own!!!" No, I just don't think I should have kids. I've met my nieces, they are spawn.
Now that I think about it, being a parent does sound like Stockholm syndrome. So, so many parents "love" their kids out of circumstance than out of genuine emotion, and the parents are sort of held captive by their kids. That's kinda scary to think about.
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What's funny is having that thread and seeing how many people regret having kids and yet, Reddit views r/childfree as the worst of the worst subreddits. I guess it's clear that Reddit hates r/childfree because it's a subreddit full of people who were smarter than their biology and didn't fall into the baby trap.
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What's funny is having that thread and seeing how many people regret having kids and yet, Reddit views r/childfree as the worst of the worst subreddits. I guess it's clear that Reddit hates r/childfree because it's a subreddit full of people who were smarter than their biology and didn't fall into the baby trap.
I know, it's weird. Having kids and regretting having them isn't as bad as choosing to just not have kids at all? Must be along the same lines as pro-life logic: abortion is the most evil thing to ever exist, but they sure don't seem to be too concerned when people hate or kill their unwanted born kids.
Seems like people kinda got it all ass-backwards.
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The abused person becomes preoccupied with the needs, desires, and habits of the abusive, controlling person.
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Taking the abuser’s perspective as a survival technique can become so intense that the victim actually develops anger toward those trying to help them.
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Situation 4: Feeling Unable to Escape
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Emotional Investment – We’ve invested so many emotions, cried so much, and worried so much that we feel we must see the relationship through to the finish.
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Social Investment – We’ve got our pride! To avoid social embarrassment and uncomfortable social situations, we remain in the relationship.
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Financial Investment – In many cases, the controlling and abusive partner has created a complex financial situation. Many victims remain in a bad relationship, waiting for a better financial situation to develop that would make their departure and detachment easier.
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I will never understand people who have mental disorders (or personality quirks) that make being around others difficult, but then they go and breed. I recall something on Smothering from a long time ago about a Moo who bred with a guy who has both anxiety and autism and one of his big triggers is screaming children! WHY would you breed knowing that kids trigger you, or breed with someone knowing that kids drive them nuts?