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Re: Mommy STILL doesn't think her needs and hobbies matter, but... August 30, 2016 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 198 |
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Cambion
I hate the belief that men are "allowed" to have hobbies once the loaf comes along, but women are seen as negligent, horrid parents if they dare want to do something for themselves. This is probably why so many Moos are so bitter, resentful, depressed and drink their weight in booze on a weekly basis: they are fully expected to abandon who they were pre-brat and allow themselves to become fully immersed in their roles as ass-wipers. Moos are expected to give up every single thing in life they enjoy all for their goddamn kids because I guess giving your child less than 100 percent means you don't really love them. That, or their children are supposed to bring them so much joy that they shouldn't need to fill their lives with other things that could make them happy.
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Thia was a major factor in me becoming childfree. If you are a woman and you have kids, you're always a single mom, whether you're married or not. Fucking injustice.
Re: Mommy STILL doesn't think her needs and hobbies matter, but... August 30, 2016 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,735 |
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I hate the belief that men are "allowed" to have hobbies once the loaf comes along, but women are seen as negligent, horrid parents if they dare want to do something for themselves. This is probably why so many Moos are so bitter, resentful, depressed and drink their weight in booze on a weekly basis: they are fully expected to abandon who they were pre-brat and allow themselves to become fully immersed in their roles as ass-wipers. Moos are expected to give up every single thing in life they enjoy all for their goddamn kids because I guess giving your child less than 100 percent means you don't really love them. That, or their children are supposed to bring them so much joy that they shouldn't need to fill their lives with other things that could make them happy.
Obviously, Moos aren't going to have time to pursue all the things they want at once while being parents because there's just not enough time or energy in the day. Either some of the hobbies would suffer or the kid would get neglected. But it's fucking ridiculous that women are made to feel guilty if they want to dare have lives outside of their kids, even if those kids are school-aged. If Moos could pursue hobbies of their own while their husbands get off their asses and "babysit" now and then, maybe the Moos wouldn't be such fucking bitches all the time.
As far as this woman, she's going to be living vicariously through her child because Moo wants to sing so badly. She can't sing like she wants to do herself, so she'll become waaaaay too deeply involved in her kid's singing, pushing the kid to be the very best and forcing her to remain in the choir even if she loses interest entirely and wants to quit. And like you guys have already said, she'll immediately take issue with the music teacher and undermine everything that teacher says because Mommy is right about anything music-related.
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As far as I'm concerned, in order to properly (and sanely) take care of someone else, you need to take care of yourself at least a little bit. If you do nothing but give give give all your time, energy, affection and money toward the care of your kid or pet or whoever, you'll get burned out and/or incredibly resentful over the life you're not "able" to live. Then you wind up taking that bitterness and anger out on your dependents and they certainly feel the effects. If you do this for years and years, you can very easily mess your kids up for life.
Re: Mommy STILL doesn't think her needs and hobbies matter, but... August 31, 2016 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,975 |
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Thia was a major factor in me becoming childfree. If you are a woman and you have kids, you're always a single mom, whether you're married or not. Fucking injustice.
I just read an article pertaining to this. It was pointing out the discrepancy in child care duties between men and women. While it's better than it was in the 50s (no kidding), it's still out of balance. The article actually centered around the fact that if a couple has a dog, they split caretaking more equally. It's babies specifically that are still considered "women's work."