The joy of freedom August 29, 2017 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,440 |
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Still, I am far from alone. I have beautiful, close friends. “Lacking” certain relationships allows me to be flexible and available. I can show up for my friends when they need someone – especially when they are getting divorced and need a place to crash, or when they enter hospice. (I’ve gone through hospice with so many people now, the end of life doesn’t frighten me.)
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This is bizarre considering that, as we hit 40, many of my single friends seem much happier and fulfilled than most of my married friends. Many (not all) of my married friends, gay and straight, seem like they are stuck in a script they had to follow. Many seem to feel regret or wonder about what might have been.
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Firstly, he isn't alone. He has close friends.Quote
You're also alone and are missing the joys of family and parenthood.
Secondly, some of us have seen up-close the, ahem, 'joys' of parenthood and have decided we need all that like a hole in the head. Not everyone wants the same things from life. Is that really so hard to believe?
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The "he doth protest too much" commenters are conveniently forgetting that their logic could be applied to parenthood, marriage, and all those other things people like to gush about online.
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The "he doth protest too much" commenters are conveniently forgetting that their logic could be applied to parenthood, marriage, and all those other things people like to gush about online.
And their own damn comments. Is there a parent anywhere, ever, who hasn't insisted "but it's all worth it"?
Re: The joy of freedom August 29, 2017 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,982 |
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Many (not all) of my married friends, gay and straight, seem like they are stuck in a script they had to follow. Many seem to feel regret or wonder about what might have been.
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randomcfchick
The "he doth protest too much" commenters are conveniently forgetting that their logic could be applied to parenthood, marriage, and all those other things people like to gush about online.
And their own damn comments. Is there a parent anywhere, ever, who hasn't insisted "but it's all worth it"?
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randomcfchick
The "he doth protest too much" commenters are conveniently forgetting that their logic could be applied to parenthood, marriage, and all those other things people like to gush about online.
And their own damn comments. Is there a parent anywhere, ever, who hasn't insisted "but it's all worth it"?
Agreed. They're trying to convince themselves by all using the same refrain.
And even is all worth it...what exactly does that have to do with me? "All worth it" is a totally subjective thing. It would NOT be all worth it for me. That's okay. I'm sure there are things I do/choices I've made that would make childed people raise an eyebrow and wonder why the hell I would bother doing that. To me it's all worth it. And that's okay too.
Thus, "it's all worth it" isn't worth a damn when it comes to someone else's life, values, and decisions.
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