I just heard last week that a friend of mine is expecting the arrival of his first child sometime late this year. At my age (just on 30), I have heard this news from many friends before, but what made it different this time was that this particular friend was (supposedly) CF.
He and his wife had been married for 10 years or so and both (from what I could tell) were ardantly CF. They have their shit together financially (both have high paying jobs, own their own house, have some passive income, etc) and had told me about their grand plans for early retirement and world travel, etc.
Now this...
I wouldn't say my world is shattered, but I don't know what to think now. I looked up to this couple as a shining example that the CF philosophy worked, and something that I could aspire to once I found the right woman (which, CF guys, we all know it's damn near impossible to find a CF woman). We actually had a few long discussions about the topic over a few beers one night and I felt that finally someone else I know shares this view point. Most of my other friends either have kids or are planning to. It wasn't an accident or an 'oopsing', it was a decision they both made. They both changed their minds about being CF.
I've yet to see him since he sent out the intial text message announcing the news, but I'll certainly have a few questions for him, thats for sure. Mainly, what it was that changed his mind? I mean this in a purely curious way, not in a sarcastic way. Look, its his decision, and his life, but I would like to know what changed his mind.
Like my other friends who have had kids, I'll probably end up seeing less and less of him, but that is to be expected. The upshot is that this couple would be proper parents and not allow their kid(s) to grow up as spoilt brats.