it depends what you call punishment, with my parents it was 3 fingers slap across the back of the legs.. it was more a short sharp shock. a what.. it left no lasting damage but it worked. guest you are doing the same thing as people in the so called abuse industry do.
people quite frequently think a smack across the legs is the same as a punch in the face. its quite different. (theres even reports that some adult corrective games.. spanking in love making can be called assault) they cannot differentiate them. a smack is a punch and a punch is abuse so a smack is abuse.. QED.
without the negative trianing, the aversion to doing certain things then that leads to children running wild, doing what they want. its a carrot and a stick if you give them carrots all the time then they wont know the stick at all. just imagine children are dogs, sometimes they are rewarded sometimes they are smacked, they will learn and become nice.
technically i have aspbergers, and so does rowan. there is autism, but.. we as humans fit into that.
it is an excuse by these parents by these doctors (doctors make money on ritalin), parents excuse bad behaviour my kid has autism.
i truly beleive too much power has been given into psychologists hands, they determine everyone must be sick, therefore pills and potions and long time psychotherapy. thats why they adore autism, as everyone can be called it. as there is a whole spectrum of forms from minor to major.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/autism/complete-publication.shtml
i used to have a speech problem, words would get jumbled up from my brain to my mouth, to me they sounded right but they werent. so my dad recorded my voice and played it to me, and within 6 weeks, i went from a low reading age, to a teenager reading age. and yes i over compensate for it now, as can be seen by my posts. but when i get really upset and angry, they come back, i stutter, words get jumbled again. to me they are fine, but to others they are gibberish.
once i was diagnosed as profoundly deaf, they took me to the ear nose and throat clinic and put headphones on and played noises, i didnt hear it, so i was deaf.
unfortunatly they never asked me, my mum asked why i didnt do anything i said oh they were just being silly so i ignored them.. they knew my hearing was good because i could hear whispered conversations 2 rooms away.
(Possible Indicators of Autism Spectrum Disorders
Does not babble, point, or make meaningful gestures by 1 year of age
Does not speak one word by 16 months
Does not combine two words by 2 years
Does not respond to name
Loses language or social skills
Some Other Indicators
Poor eye contact
Doesn't seem to know how to play with toys
Excessively lines up toys or other objects
Is attached to one particular toy or object
Doesn't smile
At times seems to be hearing impaired
They may resist attention or passively accept hugs and cuddling. Later, they seldom seek comfort or respond to parents' displays of anger or affection in a typical way. Research has suggested that although children with ASD are attached to their parents, their expression of this attachment is unusual and difficult to “read.” To parents, it may seem as if their child is not attached at all. Parents who looked forward to the joys of cuddling, teaching, and playing with their child may feel crushed by this lack of the expected and typical attachment behavior)
i hate physical touch, i cant stand it when people kiss my cheek, or shake hands, not even my family, i cant stand hugs. so technically i must be autistic.
but thats the whole thing, everyone will fit into that spectrum at one point in their lives. does it mean we are all mentally ill, according to some yes we are.
i am not denying the major forms exist, its the mild forms, that are over analysed.
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