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> Women who should worry about losing their looks
> are women who haven’t bothered to develop an
> appealing personality. They haven’t invested any
> effort in educating themselves and having
> something to say. They have no sense of humor and
> they’re superficial. Often, they haven’t managed
> to find a way to earn enough money to take care of
> themselves.
I agree. Women who have only invested in their looks are in for a rude awakening as they get older and no longer get the jobs that were reserved for young, hot chicks. Yet, there are women who have done the 'right thing' all of their lives but do have this concern as they get older because of how society views older females.
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> You can only get away with that when you’re young
> and beautiful. Some men will put up with a vacuum
> between the ears if you offer what they consider
> an acceptable alternative - being hot. Once you
> stop being hot, you’re screwed, because you’ve got
> nothing to counterbalance your shitty personality.
I've known of some very smart women in the IT world who used their looks and sexuality in the 80's and 90's. Having sex with the boss for 'favours' and to get ahead was their MO's. Wonder how they are doing now as they are in their 50's? I doubt life is so grand for them as there are younger and better-looking women to replace them.
One I knew said she did not want to age because she would no longer have men fawn over her. The woman had a horrible personality and loved to play the 'female games' with other women by usually being able to get with their mates. Doubt that is happening now. I would love Karma to be getting her ass now!
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> As much as I hate the stereotypes about what “all
> women” want, I equally hate the stereotypes about
> what “all men” want. The idea that every man is
> more interested in looks than anything else is
> BULLSHIT. It’s simply not true. I’m a perfectly
> average-looking female and I’ve had four serious
> relationships, all with high-quality, good-looking
> men, and every one of them liked me more than they
> liked better-looking women who were interested in
> them because I’m smart and because I’m not crazy.
> My lack of big boobs and perfect face haven’t
> hindered my man-catching adventures in the least,
> because smart men want women they can stand to be
> around outside of the bedroom.
I am glad this 'average-looking' woman was fortunate to have all of these relationships with the 'high-quality, good-looking men'; however, I tend to think the stereotype did hold true. She does not mention keeping any them for more than a 'long-term' relationship. How 'long' was each of these 'relationships'? Where did her 'high-end' men go when the relationships ended with her? How did those relationships end? Does she have one of those 'high-quality' (probably meaning big wage earners) now? Why does she seem to protest so much about being 'average-looking' if she aging is not an issue?
Many women will fool themselves thinking a man is not interested in large breasts or the beautiful face even if they claim to not want those hotties. A man with manners is not going to tell his small-breasted, average girlfriend that he is into those big tits. That would hurt the lady's feelings. However, it does seem that the guys still want the 'Anna Nicoles' or Hooters girls even if they are quiet about their women not being so well-endowed. Then, there are fellows who will give the backhanded compliment of how they love their "smaller" women but really do prefer big boobs and super-model looks.
There are men who do not behave that way but it takes a lot of patience to find one of that sort of quality. I am always a little supsicious of a man who says he does not notice the larger breasts and 'hot chicks'. It tells me that he is lying to himself and more likely trying to lie to me. Some men do not approach the more 'high-maintenance' women because they feel they cannot attract them for whatever reason but look from afar wishing with the "what if's".
> But back to Gottlieb’s article, the thrust of
> which is that women should “settle” when they meet
> a minimum-standard decent guy, else they’ll be old
> and alone. And the part I love the most, about how
> any woman who says she’s not worried about that is
> in denial. I have an alternative theory.
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> Women who will call you a liar if you say you’re
> not worried are in denial of something themselves:
> that they’re projecting their own crap onto
> everyone else. That they realize they’re just not
> very interesting and the lack of a husband has
> little to do with their age. Gottlieb, in
> particular, is in denial of the fact that she made
> a huge mistake when she used artificial
> insemination to have a baby if she in fact wanted
> to get a husband at some point in the future. She
> says she’s 40 now and can’t even date because of
> the baby, which she used a donor to create, while
> single. Well, duh.
As we get older, it can be hard to find a mate since we tend to get set in our ways. I will be 44 this year and had no problem attracting men in my 40's. For a long time, I was not looking for anything serious until I met a man who is truly a good person. The Gottlieb woman did make a mistake with the artificial insemination. She may have a good career and a home but a man who is going to date 40/year-olds are not going to want middle-aged women with those crying babies. She did it to herself.