"Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!"
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"Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 24, 2013 |
On Facebook, there's a page I've "liked" called I Regret Having Children. Recently, they've began accepting anonymous submissions. Here's one of the latest.
Aww! Poor moo! Maybe if she had a spine and didn't let her boyfriend make the choice for her, she could've continued with her life. "Bed, made, lie" can't be screamed loud enough.
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"Be yourself, no matter what. Some will adore you, and some will hate everything about you, but who cares?
It's your life. Make the most out of it."
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I am 19 years old and a mother to a 9 month old. I have never been the type to want children, and growing up, I have always focused on going to uni, ever since I can remember. I am academic and I found out I was pregnant the year before uni. I also dreamed of traveling and I was starting to gain momentum in a sport that I loved, which would have taken me around the world to compete.
I was crushed when I found out, so sure my dreams would all end, but my partner was soooo happy, and he promised he would be there and support me and look after the baby so I could still achieve my goals. I agreed to keep him but the feeling of not being sure if I was doing the right thing, and feeling trapped, never left. In fact, I remember being 7/8 months pregnant and still feeling the same. Everybody told me it would pass.
Well, it turns out that whilst my partner pulled his weight for the first couple of months, I am left to do most of the nurturing and chores. I am constantly run off my feet, not doing stuff for the baby but him too. I am no longer in college, and have had to stop training as my partner has decided that he doesn't wish for me to pursue it, due to the travelling aspect, and has therefore decided to do whatever he can to stop me, by refusing to watch our son so I can train etc.
The feeling of regret hasn't subsided. I feel trapped. And even worse, I still have this burning desire to fulfill my dreams, that burns more now than ever, but I feel hopeless that I have screwed up and I am never going to achieve it. My uni was my financial security- I am currently struggling to run my home. My sport was my only passion- I miss it , I yearn for it.
I feel so lost and alone, I miss my life, I am no longer me. I have always had goals and dreams but now, is this it? I will say that I love my son, nothing makes me smile like when he smiles, and I think he's cute and funny. BUT it's NOT rewarding at all.
My partner will be like, "look his first tooth," expecting me to be excited, and I'm more like, "well sure its gotta happen eventually."
I wanted to travel and compete and have a good career and be free, but now I cant and I feel trapped and I feel even worse knowing that I'm allowing somebody else to tell me no. I can't travel, as my son's father wont allow me to take the baby out of the country alone, and he refuses to cst need somebody to talk to does anybody get how I feel?((
Aww! Poor moo! Maybe if she had a spine and didn't let her boyfriend make the choice for her, she could've continued with her life. "Bed, made, lie" can't be screamed loud enough.
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"Be yourself, no matter what. Some will adore you, and some will hate everything about you, but who cares?
It's your life. Make the most out of it."
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 25, 2013 |
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popcornculturejunkie
Dollars to doughnuts, he'll dump her ass within the next year. Yeah, fuck giving up my dreams and ambitions for some suck-ass Og and his dick mucus!
THANK YOU! For reminding me that I bought some cinnamon donuts yesterday - I was just sitting here wondering what to eat. Tired of toast. I do have this apple coffee cake also - it's crappy. Is it possible to ruin a coffee cake? Yes, yes it is. It's like blah bread with some sour apples tossed in the middle.
Cinnamon donuts it is!
Hey, the CF have tough decisions to make too you know!
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 25, 2013 |
Aw, diddums! :Violin Sorry, no sympathy for the stupid bitch.
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"An oyster can play catch if u only give it the oprotunity"
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 25, 2013 |
I don't believe for a moment that she valued her academic future & sport more than keeping a man 
eyes2
She valued HIM and the ability to keep HIM around more than anything. She probably did have some doubts but they were clearly overpowered by her desire to play house. She readily believed the lie that he would do his part because it agreed with her deep down desire. Many teen girls look at the world of academic study/competitive sport and think that becoming a moomy will give them an easier route to achievement and rank in society.
But there are millions of ambitious teens out there who study, compete, and live every day and they don't let a clingy, possessive boyfriend's idiotic promises determine the course of their lives in such a drastic manner.
I get that teens have years before full brain maturity that determines executive functions. But this isn't the 1960s or 70s. Abortion and adopting out are readily available. She wanted to play house. Then, play fucking house, you dumb little bitch.
eyes2She valued HIM and the ability to keep HIM around more than anything. She probably did have some doubts but they were clearly overpowered by her desire to play house. She readily believed the lie that he would do his part because it agreed with her deep down desire. Many teen girls look at the world of academic study/competitive sport and think that becoming a moomy will give them an easier route to achievement and rank in society.
But there are millions of ambitious teens out there who study, compete, and live every day and they don't let a clingy, possessive boyfriend's idiotic promises determine the course of their lives in such a drastic manner.
I get that teens have years before full brain maturity that determines executive functions. But this isn't the 1960s or 70s. Abortion and adopting out are readily available. She wanted to play house. Then, play fucking house, you dumb little bitch.
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 25, 2013 |
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me in az
I also got pregnant at age 19. Sophomore year in college. During a very athletic (ahem) sex session with visiting boyfriend, condom broke. Nervous, but no need to panic just yet. 3 weeks later and no period, I knew it. I just knew I was pregnant. Here's what I did: Took a home test. Positive result. Went to student health and had a test. Positive result. Informed my boyfriend, who was at that time, a freshman in college. Found a clinic. The nearest one at the time was about 100 miles from my school. Made an appointment. Arranged to borrow a friend's car. Made the drive to the clinic. Met my boyfriend at the clinic. He brought the $300 to pay for abortion. Had the abortion. Boyfriend and I had lunch afterwards (I was really hungry!) then said our good byes and I drove back to school. All this happened in 1 week. The year was 1978. No ruined lives, no regrets. I did what was needed to be done. And my boyfriend, now my husband of 32 years, was in absolute agreement.
I too am always puzzled by women (and I've met a few over the years) who really think their only option is birth and servitude to their mistake. It was just so crystal clear to me.
Yup. I had one at 22. We had a condom break, and when I ran the rest of the box through some paces (I've helped with sex ed demos, so I know what a condom SHOULD be able to take), every single one of them broke. I know how to store condoms, and I know how to use condoms. I just got a bad box. Nobody's fault.
I took EC within 12 hours, but I lost the luck of the draw yet again. It didn't work.
I never had any second thoughts or even considered NOT getting an abortion. It seemed so damn obvious. The only emotion I felt, really, was pissed off that I got so unlucky to begin with. Two contraceptive failures back-to-back? Really??
But such is life, and at the end of the day, that abortion was well worth a few hundred bucks. That few hundred bucks was a small price for my happiness.
I too will never understand what makes women feel obligated to give birth AND keep it knowing it will destroy their lives. Seriously, it is just not that big a deal. It's the price of a laptop and some discomfort to get YOUR LIFE back. That seems almost trivial to me.
But we live in a culture that has spend unfathomable amounts of time and energy trying to personify embryos and make women feel like their proper place in life is as an incubator. Quite frankly, I don't even care if it is a person. No one has a right to hurt me or destroy my life. It's simple as pie.
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CFinPenthouse
I don't believe for a moment that she valued her academic future & sport more than keeping a man
She valued HIM and the ability to keep HIM around more than anything. She probably did have some doubts but they were clearly overpowered by her desire to play house. She readily believed the lie that he would do his part because it agreed with her deep down desire. Many teen girls look at the world of academic study/competitive sport and think that becoming a moomy will give them an easier route to achievement and rank in society.
But there are millions of ambitious teens out there who study, compete, and live every day and they don't let a clingy, possessive boyfriend's idiotic promises determine the course of their lives in such a drastic manner.
I get that teens have years before full brain maturity that determines executive functions. But this isn't the 1960s or 70s. Abortion and adopting out are readily available. She wanted to play house. Then, play fucking house, you dumb little bitch.
This occurred to me too. I have my doubts that someone who actually possesses the drive and intelligence to ACHIEVE such lofty dreams would make such a series of idiotic and self-deprecating decisions.
The reality is she probably wouldn't have made the cut whether she'd gotten knocked up or not.
She's probably a product of the "everyone gets a gold star" generation who believed she was a special snowflake who could do anything, when in reality she couldn't be more average if she tried.
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 25, 2013 |
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lilin_unite
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me in az
I also got pregnant at age 19. Sophomore year in college. During a very athletic (ahem) sex session with visiting boyfriend, condom broke. Nervous, but no need to panic just yet. 3 weeks later and no period, I knew it. I just knew I was pregnant. Here's what I did: Took a home test. Positive result. Went to student health and had a test. Positive result. Informed my boyfriend, who was at that time, a freshman in college. Found a clinic. The nearest one at the time was about 100 miles from my school. Made an appointment. Arranged to borrow a friend's car. Made the drive to the clinic. Met my boyfriend at the clinic. He brought the $300 to pay for abortion. Had the abortion. Boyfriend and I had lunch afterwards (I was really hungry!) then said our good byes and I drove back to school. All this happened in 1 week. The year was 1978. No ruined lives, no regrets. I did what was needed to be done. And my boyfriend, now my husband of 32 years, was in absolute agreement.
I too am always puzzled by women (and I've met a few over the years) who really think their only option is birth and servitude to their mistake. It was just so crystal clear to me.
Yup. I had one at 22. We had a condom break, and when I ran the rest of the box through some paces (I've helped with sex ed demos, so I know what a condom SHOULD be able to take), every single one of them broke. I know how to store condoms, and I know how to use condoms. I just got a bad box. Nobody's fault.
I took EC within 12 hours, but I lost the luck of the draw yet again. It didn't work.
I never had any second thoughts or even considered NOT getting an abortion. It seemed so damn obvious. The only emotion I felt, really, was pissed off that I got so unlucky to begin with. Two contraceptive failures back-to-back? Really??
But such is life, and at the end of the day, that abortion was well worth a few hundred bucks. That few hundred bucks was a small price for my happiness.
I too will never understand what makes women feel obligated to give birth AND keep it knowing it will destroy their lives. Seriously, it is just not that big a deal. It's the price of a laptop and some discomfort to get YOUR LIFE back. That seems almost trivial to me.
But we live in a culture that has spend unfathomable amounts of time and energy trying to personify embryos and make women feel like their proper place in life is as an incubator. Quite frankly, I don't even care if it is a person. No one has a right to hurt me or destroy my life. It's simple as pie.Quote
CFinPenthouse
I don't believe for a moment that she valued her academic future & sport more than keeping a man
She valued HIM and the ability to keep HIM around more than anything. She probably did have some doubts but they were clearly overpowered by her desire to play house. She readily believed the lie that he would do his part because it agreed with her deep down desire. Many teen girls look at the world of academic study/competitive sport and think that becoming a moomy will give them an easier route to achievement and rank in society.
But there are millions of ambitious teens out there who study, compete, and live every day and they don't let a clingy, possessive boyfriend's idiotic promises determine the course of their lives in such a drastic manner.
I get that teens have years before full brain maturity that determines executive functions. But this isn't the 1960s or 70s. Abortion and adopting out are readily available. She wanted to play house. Then, play fucking house, you dumb little bitch.
This occurred to me too. I had my doubts that someone who actually possesses the drive and will power to ACHIEVE such lofty dreams would make such a series of idiotic and self-deprecating decisions.
The reality is she probably wouldn't have made the cut whether she'd gotten knocked up or not.
Yeah, another friend of mine back in the day had the same thing happen. Bad box of condoms that all broke. She and her boyfriend had used condoms for a long time, so it wasn't a rookie mistake of putting them on wrong.
Fortunately, she dodged the bullet and did not get knocked up. It was a nerve wracking time for her though.
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 26, 2013 |
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lilin_unite
She's probably a product of the "everyone gets a gold star" generation who believed she was a special snowflake who could do anything, when in reality she couldn't be more average if she tried.
Like this?
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 26, 2013 |
I can't imagine what this moo was thinking believing her wannaduh. It's all rainbows and dickcake where they hear what they wanna hear, yet no one actually thinks things through. Like others above have said: she couldn't have actually thought giving up a career and future like that was worth her mantard and sprogling. She couldn't have been that serious about these choices since she ended up shitting out a loaf.
Also, looking at the actual writing of this post, it looks like it was written by someone who actually has grasp of their native language. I call bullshit on this being written by some late teen/early 20s moo. I could actually read the whole thing!
Also, looking at the actual writing of this post, it looks like it was written by someone who actually has grasp of their native language. I call bullshit on this being written by some late teen/early 20s moo. I could actually read the whole thing!
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 27, 2013 |
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WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T SHE ABORT???
There's still time!
Just to be spiteful, is there any way to add a reply anonymously (I have never used Facebook so I don't know how it works) pretending to be a sympathetic fellow moo suggesting she leave it in a hot car or not supervising it near a pond and see what the responses are? Or is that really mean?
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Re: "Wahh! I had to give up my life to be a teen parent!" August 27, 2013 |
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Also, looking at the actual writing of this post, it looks like it was written by someone who actually has grasp of their native language. I call bullshit on this being written by some late teen/early 20s moo. I could actually read the whole thing!
Her ability to write a coherent sentence may be why she thought she had a shot at an academic career. Of course that is bullshit, you can't tell until the person has completed at least a master's degree if there's even the potential for an academic career, because up until that point, there's been no research. And it isn't until the person has completed a PhD that you know if the other skills are there, such as the ability for self-directed work and a flair for posing good research questions.
Any 19-year-old talking about what she could have been is only creating excuses for her failure to actually do it. The fact that she sabotaged her own efforts is pretty clear evidence to me that she couldn't have done it, if only because she lacked the self-confidence to give it a decent try and instead opted out of trying in the first place.
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