CF Uter Wrote:
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> You know, I with ya...
>
>
> Every time I go out w/ a old friend-now moo or my
> breeding IL's, I'm exhausted listening to them and
> their stupid logic of modern life/parunting. I'm
> exhausted b/c you know how they go on and on about
> what they *have* to do with Bratley (something I
> don't think our parunts did, they just parented
> and didn't jabberjaw all day about it) but I'm
> also exhausted biting my tongue or thinking of
> diplomatic ways to tell them they don't *have* to
> do half the garbage they do.
>
> For example, I was with the IL's yesterday. My
> SIL baby-sits for extra dough. She baby-sits a
> family of kyds: get this--an TWELVE year old,
> an ELEVEN year old
and a FOUR year old. My
> SIL has like an 11-12 year old and a 10-11 year
> old, um why does the one moo even need a baby
> sitter one day a week when she has a 12 y.o.?
> (She doesn't trust him w/ the 4 y.o.- who by the
> way was a perfect lady when I met her for several
> hours) But everyone told me--"Iiittt'sss
> dyyfffferrrentt todayyyyy" I think more about
> lawsuits and getting arrested for leaving your
> kyds alone. I can't believe you can't put one or
> 2 12 y.o's in charge of a 4 y.o. for several
> hours, especially family members, and everyone is
> attached by the almighty cell phone these days,
> not to mention a landline phone. Not to mention,
> why aren't the 12 yo's out on their own all day
> playing outside? God, those were some of the best
> years of my life. I never even checked in too
> much with my mom, who worked. But I digress...
>
> These are my tips for moos who are so stressed and
> busy...
>
> --let your brats WALK-BIKE to school, if way too
> far like in the 'burbs, let them take the bus
> ALONE, or organize a car pool with other moos so
> everyone doesn't have to be chained to their kyd.
> Small kyds can walk w/ older kyds, and all kids
> can walk from 2nd grade up. If your kyd is first
> born, FIND neighborhood kyds for him to walk
> with.
>
> --don't move to the 'burbs that have no public
> trans or decent sidewalks to use. Every school
> system is not that sucky just because you blow
> everything you read in the media. And kyds can
> learn if they are motivated, by their role models,
> their parents
>
> --let your kyds play outside and in the yard, w/o
> parental supervision. (teach them about stranger
> danger, but don't hide the kids in the house--with
> the computer which allows a million predators in
> your very living room.) Let them ride their bikes
> by themselves, the other day I saw my friends ten
> year old with his dad on bikes, let him ride alone
> already, WE certainly did, and KNEW how to cross
> streets. I never see a kyd alone these days or
> with other kyds...it is ALWAYS moomie and duddie
> following them on their bike.
>
> --stop being your kyds best friends, you need not
> bike, swim, play with them 24/7 like you are. WE
> were never w/ our parents doing these things, and
> we made outside influences and friends and parents
> were parents and we still felt loved even tho we
> only saw them at dinner time and bed time.
>
> --every weekend doesn't have to be an event, so
> don't take them swimming, or whatever. LET THEM
> PLAY WITH EACH OTHER.
>
> --EVENTS and vacation type things are SPECIAL
> EVENTS, not an every week thing, stop it. Zoo
> trips are once a year or so, every weekend doesn't
> have to be family entertainment time.
>
> --Kyds can do their own homework.
>
> --Kyds don't get to sleep with you.
>
> --kyds don't wake parunts up past let's say, 3 yo,
> and definitely not past 6 y.o.
>
> --kids don't have to go to fast food several times
> a week, they can eat a bologna sandwich if
> scurrying off to whatever.
>
> --activities can be keep down to a minimum.
> Maybe even just one sport a year.
>
> --lessons aren't needed for everything, many of us
> learned how to swim, sans lessons.
>
> --Gymboree is not needed for 6 month olds (my moo
> friend, who is complaining about new moohood and
> working 8 hours a day goes to this--dumb dumb
> dumb) or at all for any age. WE all survived w/o
> this.
>
> --2 words: PLAY PEN.
>
> --1 more word--DISIPLINE (yes, from an early
> age)
>
> --strollers aren't needed every time you leave the
> home, especially for mobile children.
>
> --start staying home if you don't have a sitter,
> no Starbucks, bars, dinners---THIS could be
> considered family time!!!!!
>
> --stop cell phoning your brats all day.
>
> --concerts are for teenagers who find their own
> way there, stop bringing children to rock concerts
> for groups they like, or groups YOU like. just
> stop.
>
> --let your pre teens have paper routes themselves,
> and teens get minimum wage jobs. Don't pick them
> up all the time. Let them use the bus.
>
>
>
> Now, that you have free time because you aren't
> catering to your kyds every move,...
>
> --phone a friend for uninterrupted conversation.
>
> --go out with hubby or friends
>
> --read a book
>
> --read the news
>
> --take a walk or bike ride yourself.
>
> --meditate
>
> --have a quite thought
>
> --relax
>
> --here's a big one, MAKE dinner and learn how to
> cook for your kyds instead of restaurant food
> making them fat and lazy.
>
> --get a hobby, even sewing or knitting, so you
> could save money on kyds clothes.
>
> --do adult things sans kiddies, like bars, etc.,
> sleep in your own bed.
>
> --have adult interests and stay current on current
> events that don't have to do w/ child abduction.
>
>
> --have a "poker" night w/ friends, but try to
> invite non-moos, so your whole convo doesn't have
> to do with brats.
>
> --just be yourself and laid back with your spouse,
> even if you just watch TV.
>
>
> STUPID PARUNTS ARE MAKING THEMSELVES TOO 'BIZZY'.
> JUST STOP.
That is totally true CF Uter. Breeders don't need to do all this. I got a friend, she was 100% health, menatlly and physical fit. Untill she got pregnant by mistake and her mum force her to have a child because of moral-god-bible reason.
Now she is stressed, depressed, sick and ill because she got alot to work to do. Actually the kid made her all this. Now I tried to contact her but she is always busy working because her kid keeps her busy.
I think I should use this list you wrote on this and email it to her or send it to her by post, but she might find out it come from me and her martyr mum gets upset.