"This may seem like a crazy question, but I have to ask anyway. Why do people want kids?
I was thinking about this other day and for whatever reason, I just don't get it. For the record, I don't really value personal relationships and don't feel like I need them so I'm sure that's not helping me understand. I was reading some information that said that the cost to raise children and put them through college will cost around $400,000 per child and it's only going to go up. Do some people have kids because they want to get married and birth control is against church teaching? What advantage do kids bring to the parents' life that help offset the immense burden (financial/emotional/etc) that raising kids requires?"
Some replies:
1)"I have always wanted children. There is nothing in life that compares and there is no amount of money that could measure up to a child. Children are gifts from God. Think of the best material thing you have ever recieved and then know that there isn't enough of that thing to measure up to one child...relationships, especially that between husband and wife are sacramental and how children are brought about by that love. It is amazing once you begin to understand. Each and every life is created for the salvation of the entire world for all of time...."
2)"People have children because they love children. Parents are co-creators with God. Children are the natural expression of love between spouses. Only secular society views children as "immense financial burdens". I really encourage you to get some counseling if you are unable to emotionally engage with others."
3)To have a child is so many things. You watch yourself love in ways you never thought possible. The selfless acts that go with caring for a child you never thought you were capable of suddenly become part of your daily routine. To watch a child play or interact with you is to watch the definition of innocence come to life. To watch a child pray and be a witness to those sweet words they speak to God...is beyond description.... To smell a newborn child is to catch a scent of Heaven. Being a parent is the closest I will ever come to understanding my Father's love for me...and that is just the smallest fraction of unconditional love.
How blessed am I to have four of those "gifts" living and breathing in my house. You cannot put a price tag on it. God always provides...sometimes in ways least expected......'
4)"I have 3 boys and I could never imagine life without them! To teach, to love, to nurture, to open the world up to these young lives is.......incredible! There is NOTHING in the world that is so incredibly rewarding as raising kids. NOTHING! There is absolutely NOTHING else I could ever want that would be greater than sharing my life with these 3 young souls! To see them is to see God's face."
5)"It's all so exciting. The first step, the first word, the first smile, those little arms around your neck when they hug you and kiss your cheek, the love you feel for them in totally undescribable and I have never loved another living soul the way I love my son. My son also looked just like me so that was so cool too......
The next morning my mother-in-law was the first one to the hospital. She was in my room holding my son who wasn't even 24 hours old and the minute I spoke, he jerked his head around and looked at me as if to say, "Hey, I know that voice!" She said, "Wow Mommy, he knows you!"
6)"Why do I get the feeling your parents are asking themsleves the same question..."
7)"Just wondering, but with the way you describe yourself, have you been diagnosed with an autistic spectrum disorder such as Asperger's syndrome?"
8)"Your child is your second self. Your child receives his being from you. He or she is your own beating heart, out walking around in the world. Having a child is a thrilling, terrifying adventure. You die inside every time something bad happens to them, and you just about burst with joy any time something good happens to them....But it's worth it, in the end."
9)"...Parents I know would die for their child, kill for that child's safety or anything else they have to do to ensure their safety and happiness. I know it would be an extreme occasion for those things to happen but trust me, we would! It really defies explanation until you experience it."
10)"Why did we want kids? Because we want a family. A husband and wife aren't really a family without kids..."
11) I knew when I was around 14 yrs old that I wanted to have kids and as early as possible so that I could enjoy grandchildren at a younger age than my parents were when they got to that point. For me, it was the only concrete direction in my life. I wanted children for my own selfish reasons, so I could beget life with a spouse and share my love with my children as they would share their love with me and my spouse. And then that love would perpetuate throughout our lives with grandchildren... Children are the absolute expression of human love...
To love your spouse and produce another person with some of you in them is just the most incredible miracle ever!"
12)Why it is important to have children:
To be a good parent, you have to let go of some of the "life is all about me" viewpoint. Being a parent requires a healthy dose of selflessness. This is beneficial from an eternal view.
Before kids, you could be spontaneous. You could go to movies, dinners, walk around the house in undies and socks, drink out of the jug, etc. You (and spouse) could do pretty much anything you wanted, when and where you wanted.
After kids, there is a distinct and necessary shift. You may "want" to go see the rated R movie at the 9:30 showtime, but who will be with the kids? Who will nurse the baby? Besides, you can't afford that theater anymore anyway...This is a good thing...for your soul.
This doesn't answer why we want kids, only why we should have them or how they improve us..."
13) No niece, nephew, grandchild, friend's child will ever ever hug you or smile at you or enjoy you the way your own does....So the den looks like the toy department at Walmart. So you are endlessly sweeping cheerios off the floor. So you keep finding doll clothes on your dog and Barbie bathing in the dog's water bowl. This, too, shall pass. They inspire love. They inspire us to see beyond ourselves..."
14)I have five and hope that the sixth is on the way soon.
Having children has been the most wonderful experience of my life.
Why, you ask. Because it has been healing for me. To look into the eyes of my own flesh and blood and know that no matter what the world has for me this one loves me.
It is no less than a God given miracle to watch them grow and learn."
15)"...another reason why we need more children... who is going to care for us as we get older if not for our Children?"