Former childfree person has kids and then tries to convince everyone tthat "it's different when its your own" June 07, 2024 | Registered: 10 months ago Posts: 19 |
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Former childfree person
I'm one of them. Had my first at 35.
Never babysit, never played with dolls, never swooned over babies. Never offered to take a baby in my arms, seemed awkward & unnatural to me. I don't specially like kids (I don't hate them either). Some are little shits, some are awesome. I spent my twenties happily CF, then I decided to have children (can't really explain why) I still hate Disney stuff, Frozen, dumb cartoons, and I don't like being around children for too long because incomplete brain development makes conversations less interesting.
But, I love my children, I loved being pregnant, even loved giving birth. I had no problem handling my baby, but still felt awkward wihen dealing with other babies (they didn't smell like mine). Since I had mine, I'm more tolerant towards other children, but I'm not magically transformed (being a kindergarten teacher is one of my worst nightmares). oh, and I still love my cat to bits.
I thought I was childfree until 28/29, and then, I found myself thinking about having a child a lot. But it was not a rational thought, more of an instinct thing.It was funny because all my close friends were childfree (most of them still are). I was not bingoed by my parents. It was a slow process but it ended with me being certain of wanting children (even if I was terrified). I waited until my life was stable enough to have one though.
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Former childfree person
Me. Never babysit, never liked being around children. Still don't like other kids much even if I'm more tolerant now. I really really love my children.
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former chilfree person
Because children are the future, for good or bad. And disliking human species future is counterproductive in an animalistic, purely instinctive point of view. Old people in Japan used to comit suicide not to be a burden on younger generations.
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Former childfree person
The truth is you don't know what kind of parent you would be. Nobody does. Some believe they'll be the best parents and they turn out being the worst. Because it depends on hormones, on the relation you'll get with the child. You would not magically become a person who likes being around children, but you cannot say you'll be a bad parent.
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The truth is you don't know what kind of parent you would be. Nobody does. Some believe they'll be the best parents and they turn out being the worst. Because it depends on hormones, on the relation you'll get with the child. You would not magically become a person who likes being around children, but you cannot say you'll be a bad parent.
Re: Former childfree person has kids and then tries to convince everyone tthat "it's different when its your own" June 09, 2024 | Registered: 14 years ago Posts: 2,733 |
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Former childfree person
The truth is you don't know what kind of parent you would be. Nobody does. Some believe they'll be the best parents and they turn out being the worst. Because it depends on hormones, on the relation you'll get with the child. You would not magically become a person who likes being around children, but you cannot say you'll be a bad parent.
Oh, I absolutely can. I know exactly what kind of parent I'd be, and there's no way in hell I would have a kid hoping I was wrong. That is an absolutely asinine thing for this "former childfree" breeder to say.
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The truth is you don't know what kind of parent you would be. Nobody does. Some believe they'll be the best parents and they turn out being the worst. Because it depends on hormones, on the relation you'll get with the child. You would not magically become a person who likes being around children, but you cannot say you'll be a bad parent.
Re: Former childfree person has kids and then tries to convince everyone tthat "it's different when its your own" June 10, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,204 |
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The truth is you don't know what kind of parent you would be. Nobody does. Some believe they'll be the best parents and they turn out being the worst. Because it depends on hormones, on the relation you'll get with the child. You would not magically become a person who likes being around children, but you cannot say you'll be a bad parent.
Oh, I absolutely can. I know exactly what kind of parent I'd be, and there's no way in hell I would have a kid hoping I was wrong. That is an absolutely asinine thing for this "former childfree" breeder to say.
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