If you have sex in exchange for money, you are a prostitute.
If you have sex for a home, car, spending money, and no need for a job you are a SAHM.
If you discipline a kid you are bad.
If you feed your kid crap( make them obese), stick them in front of the tele all day, and never teach them repsect you are a good parent.
If you drive a sport car that gets bad gas mileage you are destroying the enviroment.
If you drive a SUV( that gets bad gas mileage) full of kids, you are a soccer mom.
If you disturb someone eating dinner in a restaurant you are rude.
If kids interfere with your dinner in a restaurant they are curious and cute.
If you are loud on a plane, you are annoying and rude.
If a kid is loud and annoying, they are just being kids.
It is all the same difference just one scenario involves shitlings and the other doesn't.