Out of Curiosity: Why Are You CF?

I often wonder why CF people are CF. When did you first realize that you didn't want kids?

As for me, I realized that I didn't want kids when I was at the tender age of 6 (I'm 25 now, and haven't changed my mind for a second). I still remember the horror on my family's faces when I made the announcement. They should have seen it coming, though. I disliked other children. I noticed, even at that age, that most of them were cruel, opportunistic and predatory. I hated dolls. I refused to have anything to do with them, despite my mother and grandmother buying them for me at every opportunity. My mother babysat when I was very young. Several kids about my age, and a couple infants. She always made me help with the infants. Diaper changing, feeding, holding. It was obvious to me that she was trying to get me to love children and babies, but I was having none of it. If anything, I think she only helped solidify my loathing of the horrid creatures. ("But you were a child once!" Bah! I was a well-behaved, intelligent child!)

There was also children's unparalleled cruelty toward animals. I had a pet dove that I received for my 4th birthday named Birdy. When I was about 9, my mother was babysitting this pair of brothers evil hellspawn, 6 and 8 I think. Certainly old enough to know better. My mother had been in another room (why the hell wasn't she watching the kids is beyond me), and comes back in to find that the youngest one had held Birdy down pulled out all of his tailfeathers while the older one sat and watched. My mother, when she picked me up from school, told me what had happened. The rotten bastards were still there when I got home, and I commenced screaming at the both of them. I remember when their mother came to pick them up and was told what happened, she gave them a mild scolding that sounded like she was disappointed in them, but not at all surprised that they had done this. My mother continued to babysit both of the brats (why, I'll never know). Shortly after that, the oldest one threw a good-sized rock on my foot for absolutely no reason. Only after that did she stop sitting them.

Anyway, I have alot more reasons than that for being childfree. Many ethical, many personal. Some probably psychological. I've been bingoed more times than I can count by much of my family (and only the women). The only person who didn't eventually give up and agree with me was my mom's mom. Her favorite hobby was telling me what a blessing children were and how wonderful it is to hold your baby in your arms for the first time. Incidentally, she got knocked up first at 14 by some guy she met in a bar. The again at 15 and 16. Later on, she lambasted me for having an abortion and for not submitting to my fiance like a "proper, god-fearing woman".

I like to travel and sleep in, I like being able to go out for hours/days at a time with minimal planning.--Plus I want to work only enough to support myself, not 4x as hard for others' benefit.

I want to be able to be a complete hedonist, drink when I want, how much I want.

I don't like the sound/smell/cost of children.

I don't like my daily expenses multiplied by a factor of 2 to 4.

And the best thing is, I CHOOSE this. It does not choose me.

God, we answer this every time someone new joins. Go to previous posts and look.

Great reasons! :beer: I like sleeping in, too. In fact, I like sleeping, period. I also like being able to share the occasional joint with my fiance without worrying about little Billy finding out and opening his big, precious mouth to everyone at school.

I also have plans for the future full of traveling and adventures. And financial security when I'm old. And a house that doesn't need cleaned 3+ times a day. And exotic plants and large, uncaged reptiles (because I can't condone keeping something the size of an iguana in a cage). And, of course, a real relationship with my fiance. And porn. :cool

I find anything child-related to be unbearably tedious and boring and IQ-draining. I'd rather clean the bathroom than deal with a toddler (and I'm not Ms. Neatnik). I'd also rather make my own schedule, eat and cook what I want, read books, have a non-child-stressed relationship with my DH, and spend money on what I want. The lack of overall stress is the main reason; who needs it? It's really NOT worth it.

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Rose Red
God, we answer this every time someone new joins. Go to previous posts and look.

Ehehe... Sorry. I got a bit excited.

I think no harm...the more webpages/threads floating around out there popularizing CF viewpoints/advantages the better. Now. Tell us about your scalebabies please!

I am CF for a variety of commonly given reasons, but mainly because it's better than the known alternative.m:fmbl:gross:bayybee:baybie1:smn

SO MUCH THIS.

Plus, I hate noise, clutter, and dirt.

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I find anything child-related to be unbearably tedious and boring and IQ-draining. I'd rather clean the bathroom than deal with a toddler (and I'm not Ms. Neatnik). I'd also rather make my own schedule, eat and cook what I want, read books, have a non-child-stressed relationship with my DH, and spend money on what I want. The lack of overall stress is the main reason; who needs it? It's really NOT worth it.

Not married, couldn't afford them, and not emotionally stable enough, in that order.

In my case I am CF for several reasons: I cannot stand children, in fact, I deeply despise them. I have never wanted them, :smn or liked them. I enjoy my life, my job and my freedom too much.Besides, according to some studies, rising a brat costs between 90,000 to 310,000 € from 0 to 18, and frankly, I prefer to invest my money on a lovely sports car, exotic travels and a pension scheme (some have baybees thinking they will take care of them, :bdid). :cool

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I think no harm...the more webpages/threads floating around out there popularizing CF viewpoints/advantages the better. Now. Tell us about your scalebabies please!

Well, I currently only have one scalebaby. A Bearded Dragon named Loki. She's a sweetheart and loves to run around. I'd like to have more, but space currently does not permit it. I also have 6 Hermit Crabs (Jose, Juan, Eduardo, Chico, Suarez, Hernando), a red-knee tarantula named Dutchess, my Fiance's turtle named Swamprock and a slew of cacti.
My ultimate life goal is to be known as "that crazy lady with all the creepy pets". Either that or "the mad plant scientist" (I've got horticulture in my blood something fierce).

I am child free because it feels right for me.
I like to sleep in, travel, do what I want, when I want.
I like an ordely and clean home.
I enjoy my hobbies which are not kid friendly or fun if kids are involved.
I like coming home after a long hard day at work and having peace.
I also just am not into kids, I do not get a warm fuzzy from them. I think they smell and are in no way interesting.

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I just recently joined this board but haven't posted anything yet. I feel like I could have written the majority of your post. I've always known that I didn't want kids. I think I told my parents when I was 5 or 6 that I didn't want any. I was told I'd change my mind. Nope, and luckily I found a husband that agrees (or I'd be single).

Several reasons.

Sex irks me.

I don't want romance or relationship.

I have my own life to live.

I'm too poor.

I'm too lazy.

I'm not a love-gushing "mother" figure.

I want to keep my body whole.

Being an artist can take up time.

Babies and kids are WAY overrated.

Kids are damn spoiled!!!

World revolves around kids.

Overpopulation.

I have issues.

I don't like most teens, especially girls.

Adoption is not an easy process.

Gyn/ob trips, pregnancy, childbirth, and titfeeding are THE GROSSEST stuff EVER.

Need I go on?

I become CF when I was 14 because kids are full of burden. Then 10 years later in my area I am always hearning that we have the highest teenage pregnancy rates and the teens thinks they are better that real parents, when these teens gets pregnant the society around them give them a medal of honour and bravery. These teens have no shame of consequences, they go on and on about how wonderful and blessing having a child when they are teens are. These teens never understand the burden and responsibility because their family and friends never tell them the honest truth about how hard having a child is. What I find offensive about it sometimes is when they called accidental/unplanned babies - 'a mircacle of birth' and 'a gift from god'. Society sees babies as jewellery and fashion accessories, but not as human, person to feed, raise, educate and nurture. I also observe that people claim that having babies makes sex life stronger but that is a total lie because in reality, having baby is nothing but a relationship killer and trainwreck. Now when wonderful KidlessKim's does research of these parental website blogs forums, these parental/mommy forums shows the most vile disturbing when the hell god knows what these unholy parents do to their child, especially these unholy parents see their child as 'best friend' or 'romantic relationship' and treat thei hubby/spouse as second place and tell their partner to step aside and get replace by a child because the man is nothing but a sperm and paycheck to these women. I don't see any psoitive things about having a child. Everytime I and CF get bingo about how our life will be different and much better when we have my own kid. I hear child killings by their own parents.

I've never liked kids even as a kid. Since I could remember. Then, when I found out where they came from, I've been terrified ever since. I'm almost 40 and nothing's changed. No 'clock' for this chick, and no regrets. I'm free, happy and wouldn't change one single thing. Just look at the world now and where it's headed - who's the fool? Not me.

I never had kids because I never saw the point in it. I know that sounds simplistic but it's seriously how I felt. I just couldn't come up with one benefit for trading in my way of life for a life long responsibility. I never had those maternal longings that I guess a lot of people have. I was lucky enough to find someone to share my life with that felt that same way. I have never regretted not having kids for a second.

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- The human gene pool could use a little chlorine

I've simply decided that it's just not for me. Kids these days are little assholes who grow up to be horrible teenagers. I'm with Banshee on the girl teens, I haven't met very many that I don't want to gouge the eyeballs from their pretty little skulls. Motherhood is full of too many risks, too many things that can go wrong and above all, TOO MUCH THANKLESS WORK. Oh yes, and I've come to despise humanity...that doesn't help at all.

I love your plants all over the house, roaming reptiles idea. I wanna do something like, too. I love love LOVE critters and always want to have a menagerie of pets. I dream of having a jungle room, NOT a nursery. I want to rescue a Macaw, not adopt a shitty human. Fuck people.

Seacreature, I'am with you and Banshee about these teen girls. When I was a kid I always hearing how girls saying when they grow up, they'll get a nice boyfriend as a price and they become a princess (and all that crap). Suddenly in the present day the same girls end up having loser boyfriends and I mean losers. They even have kids with those loser boys and they become loser dads (aka duhd). Everytime I hear about how these girls are princess, they always becomes teenslut and eventually teenslut = teenmoos. At least I left school lonley rather than becoming like these loser boys who become dads and put up with this kiddy burden crap.

Because I could never find one single reason why having one would make my life better.

I'm female, and I've never seen the appeal of baybees and toadlers. They are sticky, stinky, needy beings. The thought of having one chained to my body for the first few YEARS of its life absolutely repulses me. When I see people with babies and toadlers, I have to remind myself that they actually wanted that. Egad, I can't imagine.

And I'm in my mid-40's and I won't be changing my mind.

Knew I'd be CF for life at age 9. Was an only child and didn't particularly like other children, save for my little circle of friends.

Here are my reasons in no particular order:

-Zero tolerance for stupidity

-Wouldn't want to sacrifice my freedom, individuality and interests

-Lack of attention span and no motivation to constantly be on alert/tend to a baby

-Zero patience

-Fear of giving birth

-Prone to crushing anxiety that could be exacerbated by a child

-Horrible mood swings

-Also have a strong dislike of adolescent/teenage girls - so mean and nasty (not all, but most). I experienced it first-hand in school.

-I take medication that I would not be able to take if pregnant and would probably pay a steep price mentally if I went off of it.

-Wouldn't want to lose my shape/have things leaking out of my breasts

-Wouldn't want to age prematurely

-Wouldn't want to interact with other moos and deal with absurdities like "play dates"

Basically the list goes on and on and on...

I (male) knew I wanted to be CF when I was 20. Two summers as a day camp counselor with kyds ages 6-8 made me realize that I never wanted them around when I got home from work or on a regular basis in general. It cost me several good relationships with women over the years. I could never want my peace and quiet disturbed by noise or by stinky diapers, or lose my freedom to come and go as I please. Over the years, I realized I could parlay my CF into being able to retire at 45 last November. So I did just that.

This being said, I do volunteer work with several area schools in their school Scrabble program. I work with kids (ages 10-14) behaving at or near their best and they look up to me. But it is always good to be done with them after an hour or so (or, if I am running a tourney 4 times a year, after a day-long event). I am in total control of the type and frequency of my interaction with kids.

I also have a 5-year-old nephew who lives about 200 miles away but is good to see.....one weekend a year at Thanksgiving. I bought him a snowball maker for his birthday last week so he could make some and throw them at his dad (my brother) LOL!

Just because someone is CF doesn't mean we necessarily want no contact with kids whatsoever. Some CF people feel that way, others don't. But our common trait is that we don't want to have any of our own. Nothing more, nothing less.

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"I thank god I'm an atheist!" -- Mike "Meathead" Stivic (from All in the Family)

I'm CF because:

1. The world's way overpopulated
2. I hate all that mommy crap like PTA meetings, helping with school plays, fundraisers, etc.
3. I don't want to deal with bratleigh's friends or breeder parents of friends
4. I don't want to pay for some snots $20K college degree when he's probably average or below anyways
5. I like peace and quiet
6. I like to have conversations that don't involve bodily fluids
7. I don't want another human being depending on me 24/7
8. I like to do what I want, when I want, where I want, and how I want
9. I know I wouldn't be delusional about my kids (lack of) abilities, like most parents, and so I wouldn't want to put all that time, money, and energy into something mediocre.

i have 6.7 billion reasons to not want kids..

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