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Well, fucking DUH... March 27, 2009 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 690 |
Why children do best with strict parents
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1165156/Why-children-best-strict-parents.html
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Last updated at 7:06 AM on 27th March 2009
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Children are more likely to grow into well-adjusted adults if their parents are firm disciplinarians, academics claimed yesterday.
Traditional 'authoritative' parenting, combining high expectations of behaviour with warmth and sensitivity, leads to more 'competent' children.
It is particularly important for girls, who can suffer from a lack of confidence and may turn to drugs if care is merely adequate, said researchers from London's Institute of Education, a body widely viewed as Left-wing.
The findings, from a Governmentfunded study into parenting qualities, raise questions about whether parents leading hectic lifestyles need only be 'good enough'.
'Contrary to the notions of "good enough" parenting, a wealth of research indicates that better parenting leads to betteradjusted, more competent children,' the report said.
'The notion of "good enough" parenting may seem ideal in today's hectic world, yet the realityis that "good enough" parents will most likely produce "good enough" children at best.
'Considering this, we need to provide support to parents to be more than just "good enough" to ensure that children are not at risk.'
The best parenting was characterised by high expectations that children would act with the maturity befitting their age. Supervision and discipline was also key, as was responsiveness to children's needs.
'Multiple studies have documented that children who have authoritative parents - that is, both firm disciplinarians and warm, receptive caregivers - are more competent than their peers at developmental periods, including pre-school, school age and adolescence,' said the report.
It drew from studies which had shown that girls whose parents were 'mediocre' were more likely to experirecommendence 'significantly more internalising problems such as low self-esteem or the use of illicit drugs'.
Principal author Dr Leslie Gutman is research director of the Institute's Centre for Research On The Wider Benefits of Learning.
The findings, which will fuel parental angst over the best way of bringing up children, were handed to Children's Minister Beverley Hughes yesterday.
The conclusions, based on a review of studies on parenting, were reinforced by the centre's own study.
This involved observing more than 1,000 mothers reading to their children at age one, and again at five. It found that mothers who breast-fed, had strong mental health and welldeveloped social networks were more likely to score highly on the task.
These mothers were also more likely to show warmth towards their children, and communicate effectively with them.
'We would therefore that maternal mental health, breastfeeding and social networks form the focus of intervention efforts to boost parenting capabilities,' the report added.
'Both who you are and what you do are important in terms of parenting - personal characteristics such as interpersonal sensitivity and education and behaviours such as breastfeeding are significant predictors.'
The claims are the latest salvo in the fiery debate over child-rearing.
The Good Childhood Inquiry recently claimed a culture of 'excessive individualism' among adults was to blame for many of children's problems.
It said 30 per cent of adults in the UK disagreed with the statement that 'parents' duty is to do their best for their children even at the expense of their own well-being'.
The grandparents who rarely see their grandchildren
More than two million children under ten see their grandparentsless than once a year, research shows.
This is up 58 per cent on 30 years ago. A study of 1,000 families also found one in five lives more than 100 miles from their grandparents.
Only 7 per cent see their grandparents every day, compared to 15 per cent for their parents.
One in three has a weekly visit, while one in five spends time with grandparents once a month.
The study, by Tomy Toys, also found that children from Plymouth, Chelmsford and Oxford travelled the furthest to visit grandparents --around 50 miles compared to the nationwide average of 32 miles.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1165156/Why-children-best-strict-parents.html
By Laura Clark
Last updated at 7:06 AM on 27th March 2009
Comments (48)
Add to My Stories
Children are more likely to grow into well-adjusted adults if their parents are firm disciplinarians, academics claimed yesterday.
Traditional 'authoritative' parenting, combining high expectations of behaviour with warmth and sensitivity, leads to more 'competent' children.
It is particularly important for girls, who can suffer from a lack of confidence and may turn to drugs if care is merely adequate, said researchers from London's Institute of Education, a body widely viewed as Left-wing.
The findings, from a Governmentfunded study into parenting qualities, raise questions about whether parents leading hectic lifestyles need only be 'good enough'.
'Contrary to the notions of "good enough" parenting, a wealth of research indicates that better parenting leads to betteradjusted, more competent children,' the report said.
'The notion of "good enough" parenting may seem ideal in today's hectic world, yet the realityis that "good enough" parents will most likely produce "good enough" children at best.
'Considering this, we need to provide support to parents to be more than just "good enough" to ensure that children are not at risk.'
The best parenting was characterised by high expectations that children would act with the maturity befitting their age. Supervision and discipline was also key, as was responsiveness to children's needs.
'Multiple studies have documented that children who have authoritative parents - that is, both firm disciplinarians and warm, receptive caregivers - are more competent than their peers at developmental periods, including pre-school, school age and adolescence,' said the report.
It drew from studies which had shown that girls whose parents were 'mediocre' were more likely to experirecommendence 'significantly more internalising problems such as low self-esteem or the use of illicit drugs'.
Principal author Dr Leslie Gutman is research director of the Institute's Centre for Research On The Wider Benefits of Learning.
The findings, which will fuel parental angst over the best way of bringing up children, were handed to Children's Minister Beverley Hughes yesterday.
The conclusions, based on a review of studies on parenting, were reinforced by the centre's own study.
This involved observing more than 1,000 mothers reading to their children at age one, and again at five. It found that mothers who breast-fed, had strong mental health and welldeveloped social networks were more likely to score highly on the task.
These mothers were also more likely to show warmth towards their children, and communicate effectively with them.
'We would therefore that maternal mental health, breastfeeding and social networks form the focus of intervention efforts to boost parenting capabilities,' the report added.
'Both who you are and what you do are important in terms of parenting - personal characteristics such as interpersonal sensitivity and education and behaviours such as breastfeeding are significant predictors.'
The claims are the latest salvo in the fiery debate over child-rearing.
The Good Childhood Inquiry recently claimed a culture of 'excessive individualism' among adults was to blame for many of children's problems.
It said 30 per cent of adults in the UK disagreed with the statement that 'parents' duty is to do their best for their children even at the expense of their own well-being'.
The grandparents who rarely see their grandchildren
More than two million children under ten see their grandparentsless than once a year, research shows.
This is up 58 per cent on 30 years ago. A study of 1,000 families also found one in five lives more than 100 miles from their grandparents.
Only 7 per cent see their grandparents every day, compared to 15 per cent for their parents.
One in three has a weekly visit, while one in five spends time with grandparents once a month.
The study, by Tomy Toys, also found that children from Plymouth, Chelmsford and Oxford travelled the furthest to visit grandparents --around 50 miles compared to the nationwide average of 32 miles.
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Re: Well, fucking DUH... March 30, 2009 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 3,897 |
My parents were beyond strict, unreasonable at times. Growing up, my brother and I couldn't understand why they were being so "horrible." I look back now and I'm glad they were, and so does he. He's raising his 3 boys the same way.
We had everything kids today don't have, despite all the material things kids today DO have.
We had everything kids today don't have, despite all the material things kids today DO have.
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Re: Well, fucking DUH... March 30, 2009 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 2,348 |
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Re: Well, fucking DUH... March 30, 2009 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 2,301 |
Yeah, my da was overly strict and I rebelled. However, I have always felt there would be less of all the kyddie bullshit you see if the parents applied some firm discipline. However, most of these breeders weren't raised with any real discipline, so they probably haven't the foggiest on how to apply it. Pity.
I'm sure that once that report gets round a bit, we'll start of hear all the mooing and lowing from the "gentle discipline" lot. Stupid cows.
I'm sure that once that report gets round a bit, we'll start of hear all the mooing and lowing from the "gentle discipline" lot. Stupid cows.
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