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Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive May 27, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,603 |
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thundergirl85
I want to re-iterate one more time that I don't think there's anything wrong with being someone who's not overly ambitious and just wants to lead a simple easy life. My mom is like that, a chill Type B person and is a total PNB and my biggest supporter. Some of my best friends are like that too, and they're happy for me and my dreams and have never been naysayers ever. My issue is only with the ones who bingo other people to not have big goals, and/or who act like they are somehow more enlightened or transcended or "realize the way it is" because they gave up and think everyone else should too.
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Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive May 27, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,859 |
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I dealt with the same crap from my mother. On the bright side, she never bingo-ed me. She thought I was too stupid to do any more than take a bus to my fast food job and never missed a chance to tell me this. The best advice I can give is to quit engaging the moron who does that. All you ever have to do is shut down the conversation and try not to let it go to your heart. I know that's all too often easier said than done.
Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive May 27, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 263 |
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The worst part is, I already HAVE a job, but they hate what I do, so they feel I should do something else, ignoring the fact that I'm fine with it.
Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive May 28, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,975 |
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The worst part is, I already HAVE a job, but they hate what I do, so they feel I should do something else, ignoring the fact that I'm fine with it.
Because standing up for a long-ass shift in a hot sweaty greasy environment, with gross fried oily heart-attack crap all around you 24/7, while also dealing with rude customers and a stressful non-stop constant multitasking pace, is preferable to coming up with creative kinky sex scenarios while sipping a nice drink on your couch in the privacy of your home with your birds? Bwuahahaha!
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Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive June 14, 2014 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,206 |
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I'm bumping this thread because something happened that is a total example of what I mean. There's this motivational speech by Eric Thomas (I think), the "how bad do you want to succeed" speech, that basically talks about how if you really want to achieve something then you have to push really hard, but it's done in a very intense and motivational way. I had to do an all-nighter last night for a math test in my class, and I looked up that speech to listen to it. The comments were fucking infuriating. A bunch of fucking losers like "if you really go without sleep and make sacrifices then you're just hurting yourself, there's nothing wrong with giving up goals, at the end of the day just strive to be content with the little things in life, bawww."
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Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive June 16, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,603 |
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I'm bumping this thread because something happened that is a total example of what I mean. There's this motivational speech by Eric Thomas (I think), the "how bad do you want to succeed" speech, that basically talks about how if you really want to achieve something then you have to push really hard, but it's done in a very intense and motivational way. I had to do an all-nighter last night for a math test in my class, and I looked up that speech to listen to it. The comments were fucking infuriating. A bunch of fucking losers like "if you really go without sleep and make sacrifices then you're just hurting yourself, there's nothing wrong with giving up goals, at the end of the day just strive to be content with the little things in life, bawww."
Ah, this brings back fond memories of when I was in graduate school while working full time. As you can imagine, I didn't have a lot of leisure time. I had two friends I'll call C and G. They were a lesbian couple. G really got on my nerves and I'd classify her life as pretty screwed up or needing a correction. (She'd left her alcoholic husband to be with C and she had addiction problems herself.)
Anyway, every time I saw G &C, G would instigate a conversation of how I needed "balance" in my life. She'd draw out the syllables, BAL-AAAAAAAAAAANCE. So annoying! I don't remember C contradicting G or telling her to butt out--I got "silent agreement" from C.
After this happened a couple of times I told her, look, I may not have a lot of time right now, but this is a CHOSEN condition. I'm living this way because I want a graduate degree. I'm single, so who exactly am I hurting?
C and G eventually broke up and lo and behold, C, who had a high school education, started attending night school and having an "unbalanced" life herself. larious
It all comes back to being respectful of other peoples' choices.
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Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive June 17, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,603 |
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thundergirl85
I'm really sorry about the fact that your parents were like that. I hope that the discouragement and insecurity they inflicted doesn't get you down anymore, and that you're able to do what you want and be yourself without letting their naysaying effects hold you back.
Your parents remind me of these weird neighbors I had growing up. They were these two kids, age 7 and 9 or so, boy and girl. The parents were super super overprotective and had this rule that wherever one went, the other had to go too. Not just "walk together for safety." Not "oh, you're going to the park, take your brother too." Literally EVERYTHING...i.e. if the girl got invited to a disney princess birthday party at another little girl's house, the boy HAD to go too, even if he didn't want to and wasn't invited (and vice versa). Also, whenever they came to my house to play, their moo or duh would walk them..holding their hand...TWO HOUSES AWAY. This was in the 90s, too, before all that overprotective shit became a norm. My other friends and I biked everywhere, didn't have cell phones, roamed the neighborhood all day after school til the streetlights went on etc. and I felt so bad for those poor kids. They were homeschooled too, which made the forced bubble-world even worse. To this day I sometimes wonder what happened to them.
Re: When people get nasty or undermining about your goals that should be positive June 20, 2014 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 201 |