Apologies in advance, this is probably going to get a bit long.
Hi there. I've been lurking here for a while and posting some, too. I am an early articulating cfer. I'm nearly 19, but I've known I didn't like children since I was 6 and I've wanted to be sterilized since the high school sex ed teacher mentioned it in passing a few years ago. I've been researching this option since I was about 16.
Yesterday was my un-birthday/chosing to live type day (long story short, I nearly committed suicide this time a year ago, but for some reason didn't and later I decided to give it a year. I'm come a long way since then.) I've been working on furthering my plans for a future and make better life for myself, and I have a strongly renewed interest in getting fixed. I actually do hate children, and I do not want to ever be stuck having one, particularly in this scary political climate. I've been looking up all my old bookmarks, reading through pages of info, and I've finally gotten enough courage to call my (parents') insurance provider and ask if they cover it, and it seems they do cover most of it. I'm okay with saving up the rest. I have been saving up for an IUD that won't show up on the insurance (I'll get to that later), and it's pretty close in price. I'd only have to wait a little bit longer to have enough money.
I am interested in a tubal ligation, not the essure, if that is relevant.
I've found a lot of information online, and it looks like the next step is to start looking for a doctor to do it. I've read so many of the difficult fights cf women face to get sterilized, and I figure it's good to start asap, so that maybe I'll get it done before menopause hits. I've found an online search engine for doctors who preform this procedure as well as tfcl's doctor list.
Unfortunately, I've got a bit of a problem.
My parents are the uber-conservative type nutjobs who watch Rox, listen to Rush Limbaugh, Chris Plant, and Glenn Beck as their gods, and parrot all of those views, including those on women. Women need to wait until marriage to have sex, birth control doesn't need to be covered by insurance (mine is, but I can't exactly have it showing up on their bills, not that I currently need it.), you will have grandchildren when you get married, be a Good Amurican (TM), etc. I am covered by my mom's health insurance plan right now.
I am totally fine with saving up for things. I'm working really hard to become independent from them as soon as I graduate from college, possibly sooner if I am lucky. I have a job on campus during the semester, though my summer job is currently paying for me to live 12 hours away from crazytown and get some good experience in my field. I can save up for what I need in time. I just need to make sure that it can happen.
How do I get a gyn apointment without my parents? I do not have a car, nor a driver's license. I guess I could pay for a cab, but I need to make sure that when I go, that it won't just be a dead end. Not getting a "yes, we'll get you fixed, here's the papers and come back in a month." would probably mean that a gyn apointment would show up on their billing and waste my savings for nothing.
I could still get an IUD and put this off for a while, provided the thing doesn't cause me problems, but the amout I would have to pay is so close that I might as well just start looking for someone to fix me. Do you know any way that I could do it without detection, at least until it's too late to change it?