Resources for people estranged from family December 18, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 866 |
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Re: Resources for people estranged from family December 21, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 866 |
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mumofsixbirds
Hey, thanks for posting this! I am currently, newly estranged from my aunt, who is a malignant narcissist. She's stolen money from me, lied about me to my husband, asserted that I bullied him into marrying me (claiming she 'overheard' us exchanging words at her house once, but I assure you - it had NOTHING to do with marriage or bullying him about it), actively sought to destroy my marriage, the list goes on and on. She's told me that I'm a worthless POS that doesn't even deserve basic medical treatment. She says I have nothing, and I'm lower than the low.
I've wracked my brains trying to think of a single thing that I've done to her, but I just can't think of anything. Both my husband and I have been nothing but polite, helpful and respectful towards her. She's tried taking advantage of me, disrespected me, insulted my appearance, torn me down in ways that not even a schoolyard bully would do.
Another horrible thing I can think of is how she abused my disabled uncle, her husband, and the day after our mother died, she told us horrible stories about her that weren't even true.
I'm still suffering from the abuse, because she's going around telling other family members that I "broke her heart" and that "she has no family" etc., and "how much she loves us..."
I decided to stop speaking with her a few months back, and apart from one extremely abusive phone call when she coaxed me to call her under the guise that she missed me, and I fell for the bait. She used my sister to get me to call her. I hung up on her and I don't speak to her.
This woman pretends to be a good Christian, and acts like she's the victim, when she has victimized so many people, it isn't even funny.
Of course, I will never speak to her again, but it's difficult over the holidays. I will be looking into some of those links, because I need all the help I can get.
Incidentally, she is spending Christmas alone. Nobody wants to be around her anymore. She's created this nightmare for herself, which should be right up her alley, because then she can cry herself to sleep at night, feeling like the victim again.
One day I'll find it in my heart to forgive her, but right now it's too fresh and raw for me to be anywhere near that. My husband and I are still struggling a little from the residual bullshit she's put us through, but her actions certainly haven't broken us.
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Re: Resources for people estranged from family December 30, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 866 |
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mumofsixbirds
The worst part about it is that she put my uncle in a home, and won't allow us to see him. I reported her to the health authorities after we witnessed her giving him massive doses of cannabis oil - eight full droppers per day. When my husband and I witnessed her doing this to him, we tried to stop her. She has accused us of 'attacking' her, and she won't let us see him. The home where he's now staying is just a few blocks away from where she lives. We won't go anywhere near there. She's threatened us with a restraining order, so we have no choice.
The other day I was looking for something, and found a couple of decks of cards that we bought for when my uncle came to visit. He loved cards so much, and we'd play them all the time when we got together. I just burst into tears.
It hurts me, but I just can't take a chance on seeing her. As it is, if I ever do see her again, I'll have some choice words for her and it won't be pretty. I'd rather avoid the situation altogether.