bell_flower Wrote:
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> That post was good to read, wasn't it? I wanted
> to pump my fist in the air when I read it. (And I
> needed a pick me up after I read the post before
> it. What a bummer post that was.)
>
> I've heard stuff like this too. What the hell is
> wrong with breeders? You know, if someone truly
> wants to have a child, that's one thing, but
> breeders want to push children on everyone,
> regardless of whether they are interested. They
> feel they have to guilt and pressure women into
> being moothers and tell them they are less than
> others. It's just wrong.
I loved reading this post!This is something I have felt so many times.
Bell_Flower, you are 100% correct that it is one thing is a person truly wants to have a child. Women are constantly being "guilted" for not wanting those babies. I am a hard person to push guilt on, though. It is very difficult to book me on those "Guilt Trips"...even if you offer me a first class ticket!
People fear a childfree-by-choice female more than they do a male who chooses the same path. A CF woman symbolizes a female who may be harder to control. That feeds on people's insecurities. It is all about their own issues rather than our choices.
Back to the fallout with the friend last year...
I can attest that this was about
MY issues about wealthy people. Some of it was because of how my former husband and his family treated me.
However, the argument was mostly about my own junk-in-my-head and stupid assumptions about those with money.
It goes back to those attacking us having their own issues. I know that it is usually ME who is out-of-whack if I feel I must attack another person's choices and values to make MYSELF feel better. This is why I try to think before speaking or acting out as well as working on being a better person. Although mootherhood is not MY path, I will not insult another woman for being a parent even if her kid in a store or other public place is acting like a terror.
Same goes for those who live a more lavish lifestyle than the one I lead: one of trying to consciously be more austere and less of a consumer. My life's choices are not better than someone elses...just different. I hate consumerism and X-mas but I cannot fault another for finding joy im these activities...despite writing a letter to a magazine about this issue -- something I will not do again.
This is stuff that I did not learn overnight and am still learning...